r*********r
发帖数: 16 | 1 STD is terrible. condom can' block everything.
Can't believe so many mother think sex is ok. Do you think so because you
want to be more American-ish?
Ridiculous. Such education will only make your daughter a cheap girl.
My daughter's teacher told them, "Nobody will cherish it if he can get it
easily." I love this teacher. She taught the girls in her class a lot about
woman's value. My daughter talked a lot with me about boys and girls, and
after I told her something, she always said:"mom, you said the same thing as
my teacher." And she told her teacher she won't have boy friend till
college. Both her teacher and I are happy.
I don't care if my daughter is attractive or not in middle school or high
school. What is so good to be attractive so early? Boys just use you then
dump you. I am sure there is no mystery at all after they have sex with the
girls. And most of those early- sex boys, they just chase around. Actually
most of them are low -level boys too.
I believe I did the right thing to teach my daughter not just have sex when
she wants it. A girl needs to learn to respect her body before others will
respect it.
Additionally, self-control is the major difference between animals and human
being. | r*********r
发帖数: 16 | 2 Actually this is the reply to "救命啊， 女儿要和她的男同学单独看电影" though
it is not an answer to the topic.. I read so many moms' opinion, then want
to say something, but I tried several times and can't post there. | r*********r
发帖数: 16 | 3 Those who said "she can do whatever they want, just no pregnancy" are not
responsible at all. Is this "being parents" area? Being a parent, especially
mother, you should take the responsibility, guide your daughter, protect
her, and tell her what is the best for her. Or maybe yourself think early-
sex is ok. Then I won't comment. | n********h
发帖数: 13135 | 4 这种事，不是父母能控制的。你的想法太一相情愿了。比如认为HAVE SEX的男孩子都是
LOW LEVEL。 不知道你的LEVEL如何定义。我们家附近有个本地非常好的高中，学生里
面有吸毒的，有HAVE ＳＥＸ的，这些孩子很多最后去了名校，比如藤校。孩子的档次
都不低。
我也不想打击你，以前教会管的够严吧，出这样事的照样不少。青春期的荷尔蒙上来的
，啥说教都不管用。中国学校里肯定是对SEX说NO，基本当作反面教材。可是你觉得现
在中国的孩子都很清纯吗？
“I believe I did the right thing to teach my daughter not just have sex
when she wants it. A girl needs to learn to respect her body before others
will respect it.”
还有你上面的观点，基本就是教你孩子要禁欲，和别人ＨＡＶＥＳＥＸ了就是对自己的
不尊重。这样的观点对你的孩子长远真的好吗？ 你孩子可能不会再高中如何，但是很
可能一辈子都对ＳＥＸ有罪恶感，这是你希望的？
再一个就是啥时ＥＡＲＬＹ ＳＥＸ？ 比如旧时代的女的，可能１６，７岁就结婚，
１８岁生孩子的估计也不少。２０岁还没嫁出去的，就算是困难户了。 你要按这个标
准，现在的高中生也不算EARLY SEX.
我不觉得有哪个家长会希望自己的孩子高中的时候就做。 但是现在社会的现状就是这
样。我小时候看电影，里面人谈个恋爱就是互相追着跑。现在，你看GOSSIP GIRLS里面
讲的就是高中的背景，有多混乱？你堵得住吗？也是有科学数据的，宣传禁欲或者高中
不搞得国家，少女怀孕的概率反而高。倒是不讲禁欲，但是教育孩子用PROTECTION的，
怀孕的性病的概率反倒低很多。
especially
【在 r*********r 的大作中提到】
: Those who said "she can do whatever they want, just no pregnancy" are not
: responsible at all. Is this "being parents" area? Being a parent, especially
: mother, you should take the responsibility, guide your daughter, protect
: her, and tell her what is the best for her. Or maybe yourself think early-
: sex is ok. Then I won't comment.
| h**t
发帖数: 1678 | 5 我们娃小也是男孩，我远没有经验说这个。。。就是一点点个人看法
你和女儿的那些个对话不是能够绝对避免你所说的early sex。。。荷尔蒙还有周围同
学的表现会把你们所讲的这一切都盖过去的。。。到那个时候娃知道你不允许你不原意
她这样还有可能会偷偷地去尝试。。。你跟女儿老师所说的那些过来人都绝对同意，可
是娃能理解多少能控制多少？ | B******1
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