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m******1
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你先要定义什么是serious relationship。我的理解是:一种建立在当事人共同认可的
协议下的性关系或感情关系。就如同两个人hold着一份共同协议,谁都不能违约。如果
两个人讲好是open relationship,那么这种open relationship就不能不算serious的
,只是一种生活方式而已,别人无权批判与指责。而如果两人说好是一对一的
commitment的关系,但是其中一个人偷着搞婚外情,那么这种关系,无论表面上多么的
committed,也不能算是serious relationship。如果你同意我的对serious
relationship的定义,那么按照这个定义,同性恋群体中的serious relationship并不
比异性恋中的serious relationship少。

me
relationship.
r***u
发帖数: 1272
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每一年,差不多都是相同的时间,周围那些被看好的,不被看好的情侣们纷纷松开了对
方的手,从最开始的诧异,难以置信,到后来的习以为然,到现在对它们开始进行思考。
来美国快一年了,不算长,但是随着生活经历文化的改变与碰撞,我的价值观也作出了
调整,就这么短短一年,让我回想起刚来美国和来美国之前的时光,都会发出一阵轻微
的感叹。
Dating在美国很普遍,最初我对于此感到很排斥,受了在国内时期的影响,觉得男生和
女生之间除了朋友就是恋人关系,两个人相互喜欢就应该在一起。这看上去很传统,但
我后来发现,其实这不一定就是个负责任的决定。
有时候两个人因为对方身上不同的特质,或者美貌,被吸引,然后迅速的发展成恋爱关
系,可是在一起之后又发觉不是那么一回事,对方和自己想象中有差别。有可能是性格
,也有可能是生活习惯,也有可能是她/他的美貌你已经审美疲劳。总之,很小的事情
或者一个瞬间,都有可能成为一段关系中的deal breaker. 于是出现争执,到最后以分
手收场。一段又一段大抵都是这种情况。
而Dating是建立在两个人相互吸引的基础上,进行一段时间的约会,根据约会的情况来
决定时间的长短,以及... 阅读全帖
o******t
发帖数: 4384
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purplebasil (多年花生捏成bar) 于 (Thu Feb 18 22:36:17 2010, 美东) 提到:
我这个人比较8婆,爱听故事,爱帮人出主意,有同情心但是不泛滥,提出的意见往往
很sharp,所以生活中的朋友不少都喜欢跟我讲他们的苦恼,--哪怕我说出来的话不好
听-- 尤其是relationship上面的,现在更拓展到了marriage的领域。有矛盾的
relationship见得多了,我救活的有几个,有的现在已经结婚了,当然也有救不活的。
看得多了,自然心里也有个谱了(当然可能不见得对),我现在已经不再随便出手救人
,因为我从朋友的叙述方式中,有时候就能看出来这个relationship是死翘翘了,往往
这时候他们自己还在纠结,正应了“当局者迷”这句话。这种情况下,我除了戴着耳朵
听听,实在没有什么好说的。
我对“这样的婚离不离”的判断是死刑。为什么呢?咱们不做道德指责,也不深究他们
之间的relationship到底如何,仅仅从楼主的叙述方式上就能看出来她的心已经离了,
... 阅读全帖

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性别:male
取向:female
婚姻状况:从没结过婚
地区: SouthEast Coast
出生年份: 1978
身高: 178cm.
职业情况(学生还是工作): 工作
联系方式(email/IM/站内): 站内
Hi there,
I hope you can read through my letter. I am not in my twenties anymore.
I have thirty-seven years of life experience. I figured out life can be
tricky. Luck may come when you do not pay attention. When I was much younger
, I focused on my career and missed many of those lucks in relationship.
When I was a little older, I involved in a couple of long relationships that
coul... 阅读全帖
c******t
发帖数: 481
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正在看一本数据库方面入门的书籍,现在对existence dependence 和 relationship
strength的关系有些迷惑。具体说,就是一个weak relationship中能否出现existence
dependence。 书中举了一个例子 COURSE 和 CLASS (COURSE generates CLASS)。
COURSE 和CLASS是两个entity with 1:M relationship。 如果COURSE定义为COURSE(
CRS_CODE(PK),DEPT_CODE, CRS_DESCR),CLASS定义为(CLASS_CODE(PK), CRS_CODE(FK)
, CLASS_SECTION,CLASS_TIME,...) 。那么因为CLASS的PK不包含COURSE的PK,那么这个
relationship应该是一个weak relationship。 但是根据business rules,每个CLASS
必须是根据一个COURSE产生的,即CLASS是existence dependent on COURSE。这样就出
现在一个... 阅读全帖
F********P
发帖数: 805
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真有人不相信爱情吗?讨论这个问题就跟做学问一样。
结果有三种:相信,不相信,不完全相信或者有时候相信有时候不相信。
如果单凭相信不相信的结果就能够培育出好的爱情,那么也许所有问题就会很简单,但
也不会这么缤纷多彩。
你相信不相信Open relationship会培育出好的爱情?
不是因为你不相信爱情,而是跟你open relationship的人,会觉得你非常自私,什么
只关系到自己选择最好就行。
Open Relationship的人,有两种:一种是自己Open relationship,却不允许别人Open
relationship;另一种是自己Open,也容忍别人Open.
在这两种情况下,哪种人更相信爱情?
在open的,美其名曰:追求真正的感情。其实他自己真正付出过感情吗?他真的喜欢跟
他date的人吗?
或曰:需要了解别人。
或曰:怕得罪人,多认识几个朋友也是不错的。
很多时候,我们确实面临着这样的尴尬:你以为你是真心在和人打交道,只不过想换到
友谊。却不知不觉中伤害了另一个人。
也有结了婚,close relationship,但是在工作中,在生活中,面对每日和你柴米油
g********d
发帖数: 4174
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In a move that could add credence to the sexual harassment charges facing
John Travolta, the "Pulp Fiction" star's long-time assistant has come
forward with claims the actor is not only gay, but was also in a
relationship with another man for six years.
RadarOnline cites a National Enquirer interview with Joan Edwards, credited
by IMDb as having served as Travolta's assistant on films like "Urban Cowboy
" and "Look Who's Talking" from 1978 to 1994, who claims that the actor and
a male pilot name... 阅读全帖
n*****e
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If relationships are not intrinsic properties of X or Y, don't code them in X
or Y. Period. Imagine two scenarios. One is that you have another two
classes A and B and you want the same relationship between them. How would
you do? Code them again in A and B? The other is that what if the
relationship between X and Y change (say X is divorced with Y and get married
with Z). Modify X and Y? So don't code relationship in X or Y.
If you have a small number of Xs or Ys but dense relationships
m***x
发帖数: 788
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An Exit Action Plan: Guidelines for Leaving an Abusive Relationship
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/543
Planning a safe exit from an abusive relationship is a necessary and
important step before breaking the ties with your partner. The National
Domestic Violence Hotline suggests following these steps to improve your
chances of leaving safely.
•Know the phone number to your local battered women's shelter.
•Let a trusted family member, friend, coworker or neighbors know your
sit... 阅读全帖
s*********t
发帖数: 99
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来自主题: Immigration版 - I-130 Part 5 Relationship一问
帮爸爸填i-130, Part 5问
if you are also submitting separate petitions for other relatives, provide
the names of and your relationship to each relative.
那我要填我妈,my relationship to her应该是child,
但表上写
Family Name
Given name
Relationship
跟在我妈名字后面直接relationship写child总感觉怪怪的,好像应该写mother.
请填过的大家指教。谢谢
c*****f
发帖数: 157
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【 以下文字转载自 Chicago 讨论区 】
发信人: snowshine (snowshine), 信区: Chicago
标 题: 华尔街二婚男征女友,serious relationship please (转载)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Nov 12 11:43:11 2010, 美东)
发信人: honde (天地有正气,杂然赋流形), 信区: Joke
标 题: 华尔街二婚男征女友,serious relationship please (转载)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Nov 11 21:53:31 2010, 美东)
发信人: partypooper (party pooper), 信区: Piebridge
标 题: 华尔街二婚男征女友,serious relationship please
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Nov 10 20:27:21 2010, 美东)
★性别: 男
★出生年份: 30
★所在地: NYC/NY
★职业情况: Wall Street firm
★身高: 5'10/130lbs
★血型... 阅读全帖
p*********l
发帖数: 26270
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我这个人比较8婆,爱听故事,爱帮人出主意,有同情心但是不泛滥,提出的意见往往
很sharp,所以生活中的朋友不少都喜欢跟我讲他们的苦恼,--哪怕我说出来的话不好
听-- 尤其是relationship上面的,现在更拓展到了marriage的领域。有矛盾的
relationship见得多了,我救活的有几个,有的现在已经结婚了,当然也有救不活的。
看得多了,自然心里也有个谱了(当然可能不见得对),我现在已经不再随便出手救人
,因为我从朋友的叙述方式中,有时候就能看出来这个relationship是死翘翘了,往往
这时候他们自己还在纠结,正应了“当局者迷”这句话。这种情况下,我除了戴着耳朵
听听,实在没有什么好说的。
我对“这样的婚离不离”的判断是死刑。为什么呢?咱们不做道德指责,也不深究他们
之间的relationship到底如何,仅仅从楼主的叙述方式上就能看出来她的心已经离了,
现在只是在找理由来justify 自己的选择,虽然她自己不承认。
为了做个对比,我还要分析另外一个案例,是我同事的婚姻,经过两三个月的努力,现
在终于和好了。我出了不少力,因为我从一开始就判断这是个能够救活的婚姻
I********e
发帖数: 6130
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只能说that's your opinion of "smart girls".并不是每个人都和你想的一样.有不想
要long term relationships的男人, 自然也有不想要long term relationships的女人
. 如果这样的女人遇到这样的男人, 说不定是非常好的match. 对你来说有个long term
relationship很attractive; 对一些别的人来说是个burden 'cause they have more
important things to achieve in life - nothing wrong with that. You can't say
they are not decent or smart - it's very possible they have much happier
lives than people who are in miserable long term relationships.
J*******g
发帖数: 8775
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http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/newsmakers/joel-osteen-most-people-
Most People Desire to Have a Relationship with God
Joel Osteen describes himself as “naturally shy” and “reserved.” Not the
first words you’d expect to hear from a minister who preaches weekly to a
43,000-strong congregation and reaches tens of millions more on TV and
online.
“I walk into a room and I’m not the center of attention,” said Osteen in
an interview with ABC News correspondent Byron Pitts. “If I go into a room,
I’m going ... 阅读全帖

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【 以下文字转载自 Joke 讨论区 】
发信人: CornucopiaX (ThanksGiving), 信区: Joke
标 题: Legal fee::: for the personal backdoor relationship (转载)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Tue Mar 15 07:50:38 2016, 美东)
发信人: CornucopiaX (ThanksGiving), 信区: Parenting
标 题: Legal fee::: for the personal backdoor relationship (转载)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Tue Mar 15 07:49:57 2016, 美东)
发信人: CornucopiaX (ThanksGiving), 信区: USANews
标 题: Legal fee::: for the personal backdoor relationship
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Tue Mar 15 07:49:06 2016, 美东)
为了你的校友Wysley graduate .... 阅读全帖
m******1
发帖数: 19713
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来自主题: QueerNews版 - The Upside of Open Relationships
COMMENTARY: Two new studies out of San Francisco show the majority of gay
men thrive in open relationships. So why are we so committed to pursuing
monogamy?
By Dr. Jallen Rix
OPEN RELATIONSHIP X390 (GETTY IMAGES) | ADVOCATE.COM
Two major studies out of San Francisco are taking a look at open
relationships among gay, male couples like never before. The first study (to
be released this month by San Francisco State University) looks at 556 male
couples, half of whom had mutually agreed to outside s
s*******e
发帖数: 15758
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【 以下文字转载自 Joke 讨论区 】
发信人: honde (天地有正气,杂然赋流形), 信区: Joke
标 题: 华尔街二婚男征女友,serious relationship please (转载)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Nov 11 21:53:31 2010, 美东)
发信人: partypooper (party pooper), 信区: Piebridge
标 题: 华尔街二婚男征女友,serious relationship please
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Nov 10 20:27:21 2010, 美东)
★性别: 男
★出生年份: 30
★所在地: NYC/NY
★职业情况: Wall Street firm
★身高: 5'10/130lbs
★血型、星座: 天蝎
★当前婚姻状态: 曾婚
★联系方式: t***********[email protected]
★是否希望版务对本帖锁贴并禁止讨论:不禁止
优点:
1. 性格温和,心地自认比较善良,似乎还有点不怎么成功的幽默感。
2. 体格健壮匀称,不是水桶,也不是火柴棒。
3. 名校... 阅读全帖
d******1
发帖数: 349
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Why Do Apple Inc. and Qualcomm Inc. Reportedly Have an “Uneasy”
Relationship?
Apple and its supplier Qualcomm are essentially competitors.
http://www.fool.com/investing/general/2015/10/07/why-do-apple-i
In a recent article published in Venture Beat, the author claims that, per
his sources, Apple (NASDAQ:AAPL) and one of its key iPhone suppliers,
Qualcomm (NASDAQ:QCOM), have an "uneasy relationship." In this article, I'd
like to offer a potential explanation for this reportedly rocky relationship... 阅读全帖
h***e
发帖数: 890
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来自主题: LES版 - Relationship rules
非原创,不求包子不必mark。原文太长做了删节。
* Choose a partner wisely and well. We are attracted to people for all
kinds of reasons. They remind us of someone from our past. They shower us
with gifts and make us feel important. Evaluate a potential partner as you
would a friend; look at their character, personality, values, their
generosity of spirit, the relationship between their words and actions,
their relationships with others.
* Know your partner's beliefs about relationships. Different people have
d
o******t
发帖数: 4384
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mas73 (sonia) 于 (Wed Jun 8 08:06:36 2011, 美东) 提到:
一大早来发帖,肯定昨夜没怎么睡,思来想去不如拿出来让大家分析分析,有错改之,
无则加勉:)
正序来说吧,
和他在一起快一年后,有次意外发现他和一个异性朋友聊天过频繁,而且言语很暧昧,
比如my dear xxx之类的。当时
我第一次遇到这个事,就火山一样的爆发了,他当时的解释是这没什么阿,不觉得自己
哪错了。还怪我看他的聊天记
录。我说这种联系超过一般朋友了吧,他说不觉得,可能吧。然后就抓着我说对不起,
求我原谅他。我还是十分气愤,
然后接着2,3天不理他。他也不怎么理我,就偶尔问候几句早上好晚安的。后来我消气
后去找他,说明我不是故意找不
高兴,实在是觉得在一起这么久了没想到他在我看不到的一面还有这种事,而且和别人
聊那么多很浪费时间,总之就是
对他很失望。他说他改,以后不和那个女孩联系了。我当时就信以为真了。重归于好。
一个月后,看到他和朋友一起玩的照片,其中就有那个女孩。这次我就强迫自己很平... 阅读全帖
H*******g
发帖数: 6997
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Supersaiyan (珠珠) 于 (Thu Nov 22 15:05:15 2012, 美东) 提到:
chemistry可以理解为 眼缘,互动;
compatibility可以理解为条件方面的match.
待会儿给你们揭晓专家的答案。
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Riveroak (朽木) 于 (Thu Nov 22 15:11:14 2012, 美东) 提到:
沙发
广告位招租

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qt (月移花影) 于 (Thu Nov 22 15:12:58 2012, 美东) 提到:
占座,等专家
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liuokok (liuokok) 于 (Thu Nov 22 15:15:26 2012, 美东) 提到:
地板
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c***1
发帖数: 3281
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来自主题: single版 - date和relationship的区别是什么
date的时候,你做饭他不停地说谢谢。relationship的时候你做饭,他很自然地拿碗筷
吃,然后洗碗。
date的时候,你不到睡觉的时候都最少搽个口红。relationship的时候你回家就一定把
妆给卸了。
date的时候,你晚上失眠或生病,想打电话,但是想想太晚了打了不礼貌。
relationship的时候,你不管什么时候身体不舒服,第一时间就打。因为你知道对方一
定不会不高兴。
其他大家补充
w****r
发帖数: 17566
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GrowUp (GrowUp) 于 (Tue Feb 6 13:36:29 2007) 提到:
最近跟女朋友吵架到分手,发现两个人思维方式差别非常大,进而发觉他们家里跟我们
家里的人的思维方式差别也很大。要不是这次吵架,我一直都没法理解她。
人和人的差异可真是大啊,我觉得我需要看一些关于relationship的书,多了解各种人
的想法,以及他们为什么会这么想。
各位能不能给我推荐一些relationship的书?包括家庭关系,男女关系,朋友关系,同
事关系,上下级关系等。
多谢!
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snappish (恶贯满盈) 于 (Tue Feb 6 16:34:28 2007) 提到:
What Women and Men Really Want: Creating Deeper Understanding and Love in
Our Relationships Aaron R. Kipnis
DON't kn
w****r
发帖数: 17566
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来自主题: PsychoAnalysis版 - Long distance relationships - self help series(3)
How to avoid ruining it
While taking the above steps will lend support to a long distance
relationship, there are several ways partners can unintentionally work
against themselves and lessen the chances of a successful relationship.
Keeping the following points in mind can help you prevent this.
*Maintain a healthy social life:
Don't make the mistake of believing that the more lonely and miserable you
are without your partner, the more committed you are to the relationship. It
's unreasonable fo
e****7
发帖数: 4387
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there should be a dimAccount table as well right?
this actually fits into what I wrote earlier. the true relationship between
EMP and account should probably live in the fact table which records
transactions between EMP and accounts. so factPaycheck or something like
that.
the relationship alone between account and employees is probably less useful
unless there is a transaction between them.
another way to look at this is what information is the business looking for
from their point of view. ar... 阅读全帖
j****e
发帖数: 245
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Below is part of the reflection paper I turned in for our psychotherapy theory
class. The topic is personal opinions regarding the therapist-client
relationship in psychothrapy. I just think it might be something I can share
with all of you who are interested in this topic, for various reasons. Thanks!
The therapeutic relationship is the foundation for the psychotherapy process
regardless the specific theoretical orientations, though among them the
“ideal” therapeutic relationship can be distinc
t****e
发帖数: 527
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What is your idea about dual-relationship between psychologist and client?
How should psychologist deal with relationships outside of theraputic relationship?
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