g*****9
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d*******a
发帖数: 385 | 2 你见过几个离了婚的女的？
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: 何苦呢？
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C**********2
发帖数: 537 | 3 Very few really regretted since they had no other choices when they divorced.
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: 何苦呢？
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g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 4 People claim there was no other choice.
Well, if you stand on the cliff and only aim forward, of course there is no
other choice.
Back up a few steps and things may not look that bad, but I agree not many
people are willing to be patient and work it out.
divorced.
【在 C**********2 的大作中提到】
: Very few really regretted since they had no other choices when they divorced.
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l*****s
发帖数: 623 | 5 两年以上后悔的，更多的应该是后悔离得太晚了
过了离婚之初的艰难，很多人会变得自立自强成熟得多
BTW，LZ为什么只觉得女的会后悔？
有些男人很会wishful thinking 啊 |
m********n
发帖数: 4570 | |
p*********y
发帖数: 802 | 7 好问题，大概 33 吧
【在 m********n 的大作中提到】
: 忍不住陷入了沉思，这个班上平均年龄到底有多老？
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m********n
发帖数: 4570 | 8 何以见得？
【在 p*********y 的大作中提到】
: 好问题，大概 33 吧
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p*********y
发帖数: 802 | 9 何以不见得？
【在 m********n 的大作中提到】
: 何以见得？
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i****o
发帖数: 17 | |
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G***G
发帖数: 16778 | 11 no 45
【在 p*********y 的大作中提到】
: 好问题，大概 33 吧
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m********n
发帖数: 4570 | 12 谁主张谁举证阿
【在 p*********y 的大作中提到】
: 何以不见得？
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g****0
发帖数: 449 | |
e***e
发帖数: 398 | 14 haha...
【在 g****0 的大作中提到】
: 都在那后悔离晚了吧
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C**********2
发帖数: 537 | 15 I do not think the divorce situation is like what you said, a cliff in front
. Rather, it is a big forest in front which nobody knows for sure what is in
it, but cliff is at the back. People have no choice but to walk into the
forest. Later most women find that there are beautiful flowers and peace in
the forest. Although it is possible there are beasts in the forest, it is
much better than jumping into the cliff: what is the chance that people can
survive that?
no
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: People claim there was no other choice.
: Well, if you stand on the cliff and only aim forward, of course there is no
: other choice.
: Back up a few steps and things may not look that bad, but I agree not many
: people are willing to be patient and work it out.
:
: divorced.
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G***G
发帖数: 16778 | 16 no chance to survive after divorce, especially for a woman.
they are vulnerable.
front
in
in
can
【在 C**********2 的大作中提到】
: I do not think the divorce situation is like what you said, a cliff in front
: . Rather, it is a big forest in front which nobody knows for sure what is in
: it, but cliff is at the back. People have no choice but to walk into the
: forest. Later most women find that there are beautiful flowers and peace in
: the forest. Although it is possible there are beasts in the forest, it is
: much better than jumping into the cliff: what is the chance that people can
: survive that?
:
: no
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g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 17 well
Forest may be another view, but the odds are usually not good, they
solved one problem but created tons more.
Women usually became narrow minded and only eye on the negative part when
they wanted a divorce ( They say they have to cut their arms to survive,
they say kids will understand after they grow up, they say ..., after all
they never could be wrong!)
I am not against divorce if the relationship can truly not be repaired.
Many times, Women jump from one darkness to another murky world,
【在 C**********2 的大作中提到】
: I do not think the divorce situation is like what you said, a cliff in front
: . Rather, it is a big forest in front which nobody knows for sure what is in
: it, but cliff is at the back. People have no choice but to walk into the
: forest. Later most women find that there are beautiful flowers and peace in
: the forest. Although it is possible there are beasts in the forest, it is
: much better than jumping into the cliff: what is the chance that people can
: survive that?
:
: no
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g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 18 Hoho, from where did you formed your conclusion "只觉得女的会后悔"?
【在 l*****s 的大作中提到】
: 两年以上后悔的，更多的应该是后悔离得太晚了
: 过了离婚之初的艰难，很多人会变得自立自强成熟得多
: BTW，LZ为什么只觉得女的会后悔？
: 有些男人很会wishful thinking 啊
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C**********2
发帖数: 537 | 19 One can not live her (or his life) based on STAT. One only have one chance
to live a life. One can only try her (or his) best to live the best out of
it. If it is not a happy life and one has tried very hard to improve it and
feels has no chance of changing it, one should choose to leave this unhappy
life and try to find a better one. It is just this simple.
the
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: well
: Forest may be another view, but the odds are usually not good, they
: solved one problem but created tons more.
: Women usually became narrow minded and only eye on the negative part when
: they wanted a divorce ( They say they have to cut their arms to survive,
: they say kids will understand after they grow up, they say ..., after all
: they never could be wrong!)
: I am not against divorce if the relationship can truly not be repaired.
: Many times, Women jump from one darkness to another murky world,
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C**********2
发帖数: 537 | 20 Actually men are much worse than women to live an alone life. Women are much
better at that.
【在 G***G 的大作中提到】
: no chance to survive after divorce, especially for a woman.
: they are vulnerable.
:
: front
: in
: in
: can
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x*******0
发帖数: 818 | 21 我身边的离婚女人，有的再嫁，有的独身，
都很滋润，没见后悔的。 |
g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 22 i agree with both of your postings
much
【在 C**********2 的大作中提到】
: Actually men are much worse than women to live an alone life. Women are much
: better at that.
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m********t
发帖数: 814 | 23 我觉得关键是，人没有办法预测以后的事情。统计规律显示的都是已经发生的事情，并
不能预测个体某个决定的未来后果。
对婚姻里的两个人来讲，如果现在的婚姻让他/她非常痛苦，怎么都没有办法解决，最终
绝望的时候，每个人都很自然的想离开。离开换来的是，另一次选择的机会。只是机会
，并不是保证会比这次婚姻好。但总算有这个可能了。而如果拖着不离婚，对双方当事
人来说，就永远没有解脱。我猜要离婚的人都明白，这个新的选择的机会当然有很大的
风险，但有时候可能宁愿冒险，有点铤而走险的感觉？却再也不愿意停留一秒。
女人有要生育抚养后代的责任，基因上应该更偏好稳定的家庭环境。如果还是坚持铤而
走险，我不觉得这里只有女方是该被blame的。这可能也是男女交流的误区？男生总觉得
女方是挑事啊，无理取闹啊，折腾啊，其实这本身就是一种关闭交流通道的想法。只有
把对方看成平等的人，和自己一样，会讲道理（虽然道理体系不一样），会有逻辑，静
下心去听她讲她的心路历程，思考的来龙去脉，才有可能理解她啊。没有心灵交流的婚
姻，可不是还不如地狱嘛，谁不跑啊？
the
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: well
: Forest may be another view, but the odds are usually not good, they
: solved one problem but created tons more.
: Women usually became narrow minded and only eye on the negative part when
: they wanted a divorce ( They say they have to cut their arms to survive,
: they say kids will understand after they grow up, they say ..., after all
: they never could be wrong!)
: I am not against divorce if the relationship can truly not be repaired.
: Many times, Women jump from one darkness to another murky world,
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g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 24 Totally agreed
Usually man wont listen until woman totally shut the door, then looking at
the mountains, people tend to give up trying.
最终
觉得
【在 m********t 的大作中提到】
: 我觉得关键是，人没有办法预测以后的事情。统计规律显示的都是已经发生的事情，并
: 不能预测个体某个决定的未来后果。
: 对婚姻里的两个人来讲，如果现在的婚姻让他/她非常痛苦，怎么都没有办法解决，最终
: 绝望的时候，每个人都很自然的想离开。离开换来的是，另一次选择的机会。只是机会
: ，并不是保证会比这次婚姻好。但总算有这个可能了。而如果拖着不离婚，对双方当事
: 人来说，就永远没有解脱。我猜要离婚的人都明白，这个新的选择的机会当然有很大的
: 风险，但有时候可能宁愿冒险，有点铤而走险的感觉？却再也不愿意停留一秒。
: 女人有要生育抚养后代的责任，基因上应该更偏好稳定的家庭环境。如果还是坚持铤而
: 走险，我不觉得这里只有女方是该被blame的。这可能也是男女交流的误区？男生总觉得
: 女方是挑事啊，无理取闹啊，折腾啊，其实这本身就是一种关闭交流通道的想法。只有
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g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 25 Before they divorce, they also look 都很滋润, what do we know?
【在 x*******0 的大作中提到】
: 我身边的离婚女人，有的再嫁，有的独身，
: 都很滋润，没见后悔的。
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S*****y
发帖数: 2871 | |
f*********g
发帖数: 3319 | 27 其实想开了，离婚，结婚，单身 都是一种生活的状态，每种状态都有它的好与不好。 |
g*****9
发帖数: 621 | 28 The reason I ask is because that I happen to know a few divorced woman, they
all mentioned that given a second chance, they will try to put more effort
to work on
their first marriage.
Maybe they are exceptions since they all married to white guys.
I am not saying that it is not likely to meet another great Chinese Man
after divorce, but if a woman is in 30s and have 2 or 3 kids, she certainly
needs a lot courage to jump off the ship, especially those stay at home moms. |
e****e
发帖数: 3450 | 29 离了4年多了，虽然一直还是一个人，还是庆幸当初离了
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: 何苦呢？
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m****h
发帖数: 574 | 30 雎烂不后悔
蹬了澳门小瘪三 生活柳暗花明
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: 何苦呢？
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O****X
发帖数: 24292 | 31 根据澳洲大学社科教授的研究，离婚男人损失更大
至少对澳洲男人是这样的
【在 g*****9 的大作中提到】
: 何苦呢？
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l******e
发帖数: 949 | 32
也可能后悔结早了
【在 g****0 的大作中提到】
: 都在那后悔离晚了吧
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g********j
发帖数: 451 | |
k***n
发帖数: 11247 | 34 look at all those celebritys' wives, they all found the first chance to get
a divorce |
