j******g
发帖数: 42 | 1 本人女，01年医学本科毕业。今年拿到加拿大PHD学位然后来美国，做博士后几个月。
想考版。老公有工作，不需要我挣钱养家，所以考虑要不要辞职。
疑虑
1，老公申请了EB2的绿卡，到手的话还要等几年，是不是等绿卡到手再考？但这样毕业
年数会不会太长？
2，在考虑要个小孩，所以生小孩，考版，上班，觉得无法兼顾。博士后的工作虽然不
是太忙，但觉得如果一直忙其它的事，工作不够好，将来老板的推荐信不好（老板是MD
）也麻烦。
大家给点意见？ |
T********g
发帖数: 106 | 2 生小孩，考版，上班三个一起，实在太辛苦了吧，觉得生小孩+考版，或者生小孩+博
后，之后再考版，偶没经验，胡诌一下，呵呵
MD
【在 j******g 的大作中提到】
: 本人女，01年医学本科毕业。今年拿到加拿大PHD学位然后来美国，做博士后几个月。
: 想考版。老公有工作，不需要我挣钱养家，所以考虑要不要辞职。
: 疑虑
: 1，老公申请了EB2的绿卡，到手的话还要等几年，是不是等绿卡到手再考？但这样毕业
: 年数会不会太长？
: 2，在考虑要个小孩，所以生小孩，考版，上班，觉得无法兼顾。博士后的工作虽然不
: 是太忙，但觉得如果一直忙其它的事，工作不够好，将来老板的推荐信不好（老板是MD
: ）也麻烦。
: 大家给点意见？
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a*********d
发帖数: 2763 | 3 你现在做几个月就辞，能要到老板的推荐信么？
博士后的工作虽然不
MD
【在 j******g 的大作中提到】
: 本人女，01年医学本科毕业。今年拿到加拿大PHD学位然后来美国，做博士后几个月。
: 想考版。老公有工作，不需要我挣钱养家，所以考虑要不要辞职。
: 疑虑
: 1，老公申请了EB2的绿卡，到手的话还要等几年，是不是等绿卡到手再考？但这样毕业
: 年数会不会太长？
: 2，在考虑要个小孩，所以生小孩，考版，上班，觉得无法兼顾。博士后的工作虽然不
: 是太忙，但觉得如果一直忙其它的事，工作不够好，将来老板的推荐信不好（老板是MD
: ）也麻烦。
: 大家给点意见？
|
n***8
发帖数: 634 | 4 生小孩也要列入计划吗?
能早生就早生啦.
考试,工作能同时进行的, 累一点. 但我觉得没了工作, 复习可能压力更大.
我就是考试, 复习,生孩子, 我还是我们家绿卡主申请人.
明年一月考完, 还要让老板办一类, 争取拿了绿卡做住院医, 不容易吧. |
k*******0
发帖数: 355 | 5 没问题啊，我就是读书(半奖兼打工)同时生宝宝，出了月子就毕业，工作并考版，现
在已经是公民了，还考了双90。楼主加油啊! ^0^ |
d****x
发帖数: 22 | 6 If you have the option to focus on one or two things(no more than two), why
not? A lot of people here do not have such luxury to choose.
Believe me, not every one can be a super woman(some can, like nn928, admire.
..), and it's better to keep things under controlled when you are having a
baby. My suggestion is: do not plan too much for yourself at some very
important periods, life is a ongoing experience, not only the consequences. |
n***8
发帖数: 634 | 7 Thanks, I am not super woman.
Because my husband is not Ph. D (working on Ph.D now).
So I need to work GC out by myself. |
k*******0
发帖数: 355 | 8 No one can save both distance and energy at the same time when they try to
do some WORK. If you want to be a doctor before you are too old, you
definitely have to focus on MORE THAN two things at the same period! If you
want to relax yourself and not hardworking, do not try to be a doctor.
There are always some people to persuade others not to work too hard and let
life easier,but that is not my way. I just encourage others that "you can
do it, and we can help".
why
admire.
【在 d****x 的大作中提到】
: If you have the option to focus on one or two things(no more than two), why
: not? A lot of people here do not have such luxury to choose.
: Believe me, not every one can be a super woman(some can, like nn928, admire.
: ..), and it's better to keep things under controlled when you are having a
: baby. My suggestion is: do not plan too much for yourself at some very
: important periods, life is a ongoing experience, not only the consequences.
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j******g
发帖数: 42 | 9 Thank you all for your replies.
I am no "Cow", that's why I want to plan well and get it work. |
Q*****G
发帖数: 638 | 10 you are so strong, I should learn from you!
【在 n***8 的大作中提到】
: Thanks, I am not super woman.
: Because my husband is not Ph. D (working on Ph.D now).
: So I need to work GC out by myself.
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d****x
发帖数: 22 | 11 There are always some people to persuade others not to work too hard and let
life easier,but that is not my way. I just encourage others that "you can
do it, and we can help".
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~No offense, I believe everyone here works
very hard towards their goal. But when these efforts involves family members
(husband, kids), hard-working is not the solution unfortunately. Just
imagining when her baby is crying for her care/hug, can you help her then?
Plan well, and do not plan |
j******g
发帖数: 42 | 12 Here is some updates.
After the discussion, I tried to focus on two things for now: postdoc job
and having a baby.
However, I had a miscarriage this summer,I will have to try again next year.
As I need to work productively to impress my boss and my job requires
travel sometime, I am thinking about quit my job again.
I am working with lots of MDs, it's easy to get an OB from them. The thing I
am worried is that once I leave the job, I lose the connection. On the
other hand, if I keep the job, it will take several years for me to have a
baby, finish step 1,2 and ask for OB.
Any suggestions? |
b****d
发帖数: 240 | 13 This is my reply to a girl just out of medical school.
Trust me. Quit ur postdoc and dont listen to those who say otherwise.
发信人: BMtoMD (NN), 信区: MedicalCareer
标 题: Re: USMLE新手，请教大家关于准备和材料的问题。
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Oct 22 01:42:46 2010, 美东)
I would quit postdoc and get the exams done first. Forgoing the salary is a good investment in yourself. It is getting tougher and tougher to match into a good residency program. The early, the better. After you finish the exams, you can either do full time OB or go back to work full time. This way, you can sit back while waiting for the interview offers. And you will have more chances from the extra years of early application. You will be under a lot more mental pressure if you put it off a few years. In the meantime, you can have two children and get the biological clock stuff out of the way.
Step 1: Average is 6-12 month full time.
Step 2 CK: Average is 3-6 month full time.
Step 2 CS: 1-2 month full time.
You are looking at a 1 yr full time to finish 1 and CK. You can do CS after you feel comfortable with your conversational English. Because it does not take very long to prepare for CS, and does not require memorization of 1 and CK material, the time to take it is flexible.
There is a spin-off pre-med club you can join. This board is more or less for bored stay-at-home moms like daisy and fiona. The serious stuff has moved to the club. But the hand-picked collections on this board are still very valuable. They are must read be4 you start the journey.
I would have a child right away. In a year, you can take a leave of absence for up to 6 months while getting paid by the government. What a deal. Dont we all love communist America. If you dont take it, plenty others will. Once you become a doctor, you will pay dearly for others to take all the benefits the government hands out. Not that I complain. I support high taxes to riches.
Good luck to you.
MD
MD |
b****5
发帖数: 504 | 14 I just had a baby last year. Well, if you want to have a baby, then you have
to put aside one to two years. And if you decide to have a baby, you can't
impress your boss too much for sure. After all, everyone knows that having a
baby while working is taking advantage of the benefit. Postpone your baby
plan if you can. Carrying a baby and preparing the exams at the same time is
not fair to your baby or your dream! |
b****d
发帖数: 240 | 15 I had my daughter while doing my step 1. She turned out great. And my
figure recovered very well.
What a nice board we have here!!!
No more swearing, cussing. No more backstabbing. Only supportive advice. Way to go!!!
have
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a
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【在 b****5 的大作中提到】
: I just had a baby last year. Well, if you want to have a baby, then you have
: to put aside one to two years. And if you decide to have a baby, you can't
: impress your boss too much for sure. After all, everyone knows that having a
: baby while working is taking advantage of the benefit. Postpone your baby
: plan if you can. Carrying a baby and preparing the exams at the same time is
: not fair to your baby or your dream!
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h**s
发帖数: 1757 | 16 你可以先准备着看看，先看看书，这也是一个循序渐进的过程。最开始的时候，你还是
能承担的。孩子也不是今天想明天就能要的。到最后，可以跟老板请几个月不带薪的假
。如果你没有身份问题，干活又没问题，老板一般不会不太愿意。
只是个人意见，你想想看。。：>)) |
l********z
发帖数: 810 | 17 版上有MM全职在家考版，生baby，然后externship,现在已经拿了一把IV了。趁着年轻
，要考早动手，考个高分。推荐信可以做OB或externship的时候再要。看看精华区，然
后自己规划好时间。毕业》10年和《10区别很大的，相信我！ |
b****d
发帖数: 240 | 18 Dont you wish you listened to me instead of againstwind.
Just do it.
MD
【在 j******g 的大作中提到】
: 本人女，01年医学本科毕业。今年拿到加拿大PHD学位然后来美国，做博士后几个月。
: 想考版。老公有工作，不需要我挣钱养家，所以考虑要不要辞职。
: 疑虑
: 1，老公申请了EB2的绿卡，到手的话还要等几年，是不是等绿卡到手再考？但这样毕业
: 年数会不会太长？
: 2，在考虑要个小孩，所以生小孩，考版，上班，觉得无法兼顾。博士后的工作虽然不
: 是太忙，但觉得如果一直忙其它的事，工作不够好，将来老板的推荐信不好（老板是MD
: ）也麻烦。
: 大家给点意见？
|
b****5
发帖数: 504 | 19 用英语发言表达的意思太stong，还是中文更婉转。我基本同意楼上几位的观点，只是
我觉得楼主的baby plan比她的工作更影响复习考试，更何况她还想要老板的推荐信。
刚工作几个月就辞职了的话能得到推荐信的可能性几乎为零，还是再想想吧，一共三封
推荐信你是不是非得要这封不可。
以前一个朋友说过，感觉在美国一代人的生活还没有安定，下一代人的生活已经开始了
。最理想的情况是residency结束之后再开始build a family，不过这几乎只能是一个
梦想... |
a*********1
发帖数: 872 | 20 生孩子，考试，工作一起，都想做好，那是铁人。其实生孩子不累，生完以后带孩子才
累。
不如轻松点在家好了，考试，生孩子。 推荐信也不一定非得到这个老板的，做ob的时
候找医生要好了。
绿卡这事自己做不了主，就不要去想。考完了，要没绿卡就先试试h1b的医院吧，或者
先找postdoc做着 |
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b****d
发帖数: 240 | 21 She has a Ph.D, remember? She got enough LORs from academia already.
Besides, she can always get more LORs from physicians from OB after the
exams are taken care of.
【在 b****5 的大作中提到】
: 用英语发言表达的意思太stong，还是中文更婉转。我基本同意楼上几位的观点，只是
: 我觉得楼主的baby plan比她的工作更影响复习考试，更何况她还想要老板的推荐信。
: 刚工作几个月就辞职了的话能得到推荐信的可能性几乎为零，还是再想想吧，一共三封
: 推荐信你是不是非得要这封不可。
: 以前一个朋友说过，感觉在美国一代人的生活还没有安定，下一代人的生活已经开始了
: 。最理想的情况是residency结束之后再开始build a family，不过这几乎只能是一个
: 梦想...
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b****d
发帖数: 240 | 22 4 IVs! Lets worship Goddess Aqua.
【在 a*********1 的大作中提到】
: 生孩子，考试，工作一起，都想做好，那是铁人。其实生孩子不累，生完以后带孩子才
: 累。
: 不如轻松点在家好了，考试，生孩子。 推荐信也不一定非得到这个老板的，做ob的时
: 候找医生要好了。
: 绿卡这事自己做不了主，就不要去想。考完了，要没绿卡就先试试h1b的医院吧，或者
: 先找postdoc做着
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u****e
发帖数: 200 | 23 2001年毕业,肯定match的时候要超过10年了,只有考高分了.以前有人考试,生育,工作,3选2都能做下来,也很幸运主要精力能放在考试上.如果你觉得生育或者工作让你很忙,那就不能集中精力复习了.
年纪大了不比年轻人,要考版必须牺牲一些东西. |
a*********1
发帖数: 872 | 24 别拿我开涮
【在 b****d 的大作中提到】
: 4 IVs! Lets worship Goddess Aqua.
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s*******d
发帖数: 1079 | 25 考版不是一个人的事，有了孩子更是需要全家的协调。 我觉得这完全取决于你老公或
双方老人究竟对你考版有多支持。如果他从心里支持你考，而且也心甘情愿的承担绝大
部分家务，照顾你和孩子，那你多少个计划都是可能实现的。如果他自己的事业也在起
步或发展阶段或者他本人也是比较事业型的话，你们就需要好好想想了，该怎样去安排
PRIORITY。你2001年本科毕业，可一个孩子还没有呢，年龄真的是不小了，如果你希望
将来要两个小朋友的话，还是早做打算的好。生孩子不累，养孩子累。孩子的成长是需要父母额外的关爱的。
MD
【在 j******g 的大作中提到】
: 本人女，01年医学本科毕业。今年拿到加拿大PHD学位然后来美国，做博士后几个月。
: 想考版。老公有工作，不需要我挣钱养家，所以考虑要不要辞职。
: 疑虑
: 1，老公申请了EB2的绿卡，到手的话还要等几年，是不是等绿卡到手再考？但这样毕业
: 年数会不会太长？
: 2，在考虑要个小孩，所以生小孩，考版，上班，觉得无法兼顾。博士后的工作虽然不
: 是太忙，但觉得如果一直忙其它的事，工作不够好，将来老板的推荐信不好（老板是MD
: ）也麻烦。
: 大家给点意见？
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b****d
发帖数: 240 | 26 Yes, listen to these Moms. Not againstwind who put an LOR over everything else. You could have applied this year within the 10-yr cutoff.
You dont have to do anything, like feeding, changing the diapers when your little one is in your womb. Just study already.
Drop your kid to your parents' in China. Or go back to China to study. Should be a breeze with the help from nannies/parents.
【在 s*******d 的大作中提到】
: 考版不是一个人的事，有了孩子更是需要全家的协调。 我觉得这完全取决于你老公或
: 双方老人究竟对你考版有多支持。如果他从心里支持你考，而且也心甘情愿的承担绝大
: 部分家务，照顾你和孩子，那你多少个计划都是可能实现的。如果他自己的事业也在起
: 步或发展阶段或者他本人也是比较事业型的话，你们就需要好好想想了，该怎样去安排
: PRIORITY。你2001年本科毕业，可一个孩子还没有呢，年龄真的是不小了，如果你希望
: 将来要两个小朋友的话，还是早做打算的好。生孩子不累，养孩子累。孩子的成长是需要父母额外的关爱的。
:
: MD
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b****5
发帖数: 504 | 27 建议楼主到宝宝版再咨询一下，如果我说的1-2年这个数字有偏差我马上回头改ID，呵
呵。其实不过就是要不要辞掉工作的问题，如果我能全职考board的话我也会辞职。如
果是soso的推荐信，没有分数重要。
其实道理很浅显：工作+孩子，老板吃亏；工作+考版，老板吃亏；孩子+考版，孩子吃
亏。你现在确实到了该要孩子的年龄了，但是board也一样不等人。如果我是你，我也
不知道该怎么选择，还是祝你好运吧。 |
s******n
发帖数: 2279 | 28 小孩第一，毫无疑问，假如01年五年制毕业，现在也该30左右了，先以生孩子+工作为
主，复习以最慢速度过一遍一年左右，以不影响工作和身体为限，
等小孩出来了，加快速度复习考试8个月左右，视老公工作，绿卡情况，决定是否辞职 |
S******9
发帖数: 2837 | |
b****d
发帖数: 240 | 30 Yes, some1 comes to the senses!!!
Let me know what is going on inside, please. sumo!!!!!
【在 S******9 的大作中提到】
: 生孩子+考版
: 小孩出来以后给老人带。
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S******9
发帖数: 2837 | 31 little girl, I can not understand what you are talking about?
what happended here? I am confused.
I am planing to learn english from now on. So please correct my english.
【在 b****d 的大作中提到】
: Yes, some1 comes to the senses!!!
: Let me know what is going on inside, please. sumo!!!!!
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b****d
发帖数: 240 | 32 What is going on inside the elite guild?
Am I missing a lot of fun?
【在 S******9 的大作中提到】
: little girl, I can not understand what you are talking about?
: what happended here? I am confused.
: I am planing to learn english from now on. So please correct my english.
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c*******s
发帖数: 399 | 33 同意。
postdoc 的推荐信这吗重要吗。 还不如到时做ob呢， 我觉得
【在 S******9 的大作中提到】
: 生孩子+考版
: 小孩出来以后给老人带。
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