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发帖数: 1075 | 1 标题好像有点问题，应该是探讨下怎么面对一个更年期的女人，这样说就显得平和不少
了，说对付有点火药味
我没查阅相关资料，具体更年期这个学术名词是一个怎么样的具体解释，我真的不知道
用科学的解释是怎么说的，但这不重要，在牛逼的学术也抵不过一个人的感同身受不是
当一个女人有一天，突然认为自己人老珠黄了，这一点很重要，人老珠黄是女人自己认
为的，这是一点很重要的事实，也就是说当你身边的一个女人，有一天突然认为自己已
经人老珠黄了，你就要小心了，要做好充分的思想准备，来迎接一场旷世的持久的无尽
午休的无理取闹了
我用自己的血泪教训，总结了一些心得，一个女人的更年期意味着什么，意味着一个男
人在家里的存在的意义，开始从一个顶梁柱的位置变成了一个附属品，一个你怎么做都
不对，怎么说都不是，怎么看你怎么不顺眼的附属品了
安宁，宁静，这两个字会暂时的离开你很久很久，最可怕的不是你要面对一个当你是附
属品的女人，而是这个女人根本就意识不到自己已经变得面目全非了
忍，唯有忍耐，用一颗博大博爱的心去面对，你说呢 | r**k
发帖数: 1402 | 2 http://www.aarp.org/relationships/love-sex/info-09-2010/naked_truth_men_guide_to_menopause.html
Every time I give a lecture or seminar, I'm bombarded with the same question
from men: "My wife is in menopause. What can I do?"
See also: Sex after 50.
I like that these guys are eager to help rather than to just gripe about
their partner's mood swings and hot flashes. (Trust me, boys. It's no picnic
for us, either!) So here's what I usually advise:
1. Know what to expect. Some women sail through menopause with hardly a
symptom, but most experience varying degrees of mood swings, depression,
night sweats, hot flashes, disrupted sleep and other unpleasant sensations
Be sensitive to what your partner is going through and be sympathetic to how
she's feeling. Telling her, "It can't be that bad" will only add to her
frustrations. Look for ways to help minimize her discomfort. Bring her a
pitcher of ice water to help her cool off or rent a movie (I suggest a
comedy) to boost her mood. What if she rebuffs your offers of help? Don't
push it. Eventually, you'll get points just for trying to be a good partner.
2. Don't take it personally. You need to realize that your partner's
distress over her body, lack of libido or prevailing angst is not about you.
Her comments might be directed your way, but really it's the hormones
talking. Don't think your relationship is falling apart or that she doesn't
love you anymore. Remember, this period will eventually pass.
3. Share your feelings. While your role is to be supportive, don't resign
yourself to being her punching bag. If you feel she's acting very
unreasonably, tell her how you feel and how her actions affect you. Be
specific: Explain how hurt you felt when she screamed at you for not turning
on the air conditioner or how she blamed the fact that she couldn't sleep
on you. You need to be understanding, but you don't have to silently take
abuse.
4. Know when it's serious. If your partner has withdrawn from her usual
activities and seems extremely miserable, urge her to see a doctor.
Depression can be a seriously debilitating condition and might not get
better without intervention. You need to be at her back if she can no longer
see reality and needs some medical attention.
5. Seek help if you need it. If your wife's menopause is making you overly
angry or exasperated, you might benefit from some professional help, too.
Ask your doctor, clergy or trusted friend to recommend a support group or a
therapist who is acquainted with these kinds of issues. Sometimes just
talking things out can be helpful, and a wise therapist can offer good
advice on how you can make yourself and the woman in your life feel better.
6. Stay optimistic. Remember, this too will pass. You will get your partner
back. She will want to have sex again. She'll turn the air conditioner back
to a reasonable setting. Meanwhile, try to be patient, helpful, supportive
and thoughtful. She would do the same for you. If you are exasperated or
angry, go get some help. |
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