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发帖数: 491 | 1 【 以下文字转载自 WaterWorld 讨论区 】
发信人: Trust123 (回首), 信区: WaterWorld
标 题: 中年丧偶之痛
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Tue Mar 19 19:28:57 2013, 美东)
今天刚刚在这里注册，就想聊几句，不多，因为依然承受不了叙述太长的痛苦，也承受
不了在公共网络上expose的后果。。。
我老公4年多前离世时，也只有46岁。我也不得不必须及时及早处理各类善后大小事宜
，包括追思，选墓地，安葬，而后life insurance, 女儿的SSA benefit等。真正潮水
般的哀恸悲伤，痛不欲生，要等处理完这些后才有时间或资格开始。虽然再过段时间（
多久因人而异吧），还会在他人面前强作欢颜，看似还有了ok的正常生活， 但内心的
痛是真的绵绵无绝期。。。
现在想想，真的非常感谢我最close的也一直有联系的发小，当年国内曾是同班的同学
知道后，在一次聚会中提议捐款，并托我发小代转，都被我发小推掉了。她后来跟我说
，因为不希望我以后被人落下闲话，毕竟在美国我经济上还是有些保障。其实当时的我
因过于悲伤是没有什么主见的。。。
还想给Lilykang转一段，是我同事当年转给我的，我一直珍藏着，思念的时候会拿出来
看看，给自己加力。。
"A loved one is a treasure of the heart and to lose a loved one is like
losing a piece of yourself.
But the love that this person brought you...did not leave, for the essence
of the soul lingers.
It cannot escape your heart, for it has been there forever.
Cling to the memories and let them find their way to heal you.
The love and laughter, the joy in the togetherness you shared...will make
you strong.
You'll come to realize that your time together, no matter how long, was
meant to be, and that you were blessed to have such a precious gift of love
in your life.
Keep your heart beating with the loving memories and trust in your faith to
guide you through.
Know that though life moves on...the beauty of love stays behind to surround
and embrace you.
Your loved one has left you that...to hold in your heart forever." | m*******y
发帖数: 14292 | | h*********n
发帖数: 255 | 3 老天爷的安排没有人能改变，希望你能淡忘往事，步入新的生活。明天还有很多的路要
走。你还有你的家人呀。 |
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