b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 1 (sorry, can not type Chinese here).
My son is 3.5 years old and my second baby is on the way so Grandma came to
help. But I become so nervous for the way grandma is treating my son. Here
are some ways I feel uncomfortagble:
1. Grandma loves to touch my son, always try to hold him in her arms.
2. Grandma does not give privacy to my son, she runs into the bathroom when
she heard my son need to poop and stay there watch him poop, that was in the
mid of our lunch.
3. Grandma does not encourage indep |
x******t
发帖数: 3911 | 2 All of those are not too bad except #4. That is so gross and bt! |
m*****i
发帖数: 892 | |
r******l
发帖数: 240 | 4 1. Grandma loves to touch my son, always try to hold him in her arms.
If the grandma is a chinese, it is very normal. That is the way a chinese
grandma expresses her love.
when she heard my son need to poop and stay there watch him poop, that was
in the mid of our lunch.
If the grandma is a chinese, it is very normal. Her watching your son
poop is not out of curiosity. It is out of concerns and care -- to make
sure your son is ok.
my son, pull up pants, send food into his mouth.
If the |
n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 5 这个正常不正常都不是问题。爹娘能自己独立带娃儿，不需要祖父母帮忙，well，那就
不需要祖父母帮忙；需要祖父母帮忙，就shut up，别跟那儿挑三拣四的说自己婆婆不
正常。 |
g******e
发帖数: 998 | 6 agree。
#4 is not accepted here， I don't think its good or proper， but not BT/
gross either。
【在 x******t 的大作中提到】
: All of those are not too bad except #4. That is so gross and bt!
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r*f
发帖数: 39119 | 7 俺觉得，就算在国内的祖母，大部分也不会做这个动作吧。。。。
【在 g******e 的大作中提到】
: agree。
: #4 is not accepted here， I don't think its good or proper， but not BT/
: gross either。
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b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 8 Well, I just want to find out if it is abnormal or not, if it is, I would
let her know that or be careful.
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: 这个正常不正常都不是问题。爹娘能自己独立带娃儿，不需要祖父母帮忙，well，那就
: 不需要祖父母帮忙；需要祖父母帮忙，就shut up，别跟那儿挑三拣四的说自己婆婆不
: 正常。
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S****p
发帖数: 3928 | 9 正常不正常也要尊重一下你儿子的意见吧。
你儿子想不想被抱着，想不想poop时有别人看着，想不想啥事都让别人待干，想不想被
亲jj.
你儿子三岁半了，不是三个月半。
我觉得上面四条都不能接受。就算你儿子没意见，这些也不是好习惯。 |
b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 10 But the conflict is I do not see grandma show loves in other ways. She can
knit very fast, and she never knitted anything for my son. I always cooked
individually for my son when he was around 11/2, she complained that I do
not need to do that. She thinks we spent too much money on our son. My son
loves to drink milk in the summer, she think he is drinking too much and let
him drink water before milk...All these made me hard to belive she loves my
son that much.
chinese
【在 r******l 的大作中提到】
: 1. Grandma loves to touch my son, always try to hold him in her arms.
: If the grandma is a chinese, it is very normal. That is the way a chinese
: grandma expresses her love.
: when she heard my son need to poop and stay there watch him poop, that was
: in the mid of our lunch.
: If the grandma is a chinese, it is very normal. Her watching your son
: poop is not out of curiosity. It is out of concerns and care -- to make
: sure your son is ok.
: my son, pull up pants, send food into his mouth.
: If the
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P***s
发帖数: 11672 | 11 你心里觉得那4条都不正常，那就和你婆婆讲。记得回来follow up，我们大家都想知道
结果怎样。
let
my
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: But the conflict is I do not see grandma show loves in other ways. She can
: knit very fast, and she never knitted anything for my son. I always cooked
: individually for my son when he was around 11/2, she complained that I do
: not need to do that. She thinks we spent too much money on our son. My son
: loves to drink milk in the summer, she think he is drinking too much and let
: him drink water before milk...All these made me hard to belive she loves my
: son that much.
:
: chinese
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b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 12 My son does not show anger to her but will show anger to mom and dad if we
follow him to the bathroom. Also he is in the age try to do thing by himself
, but he does not show anger to grandma when grandma interferes him.
【在 S****p 的大作中提到】
: 正常不正常也要尊重一下你儿子的意见吧。
: 你儿子想不想被抱着，想不想poop时有别人看着，想不想啥事都让别人待干，想不想被
: 亲jj.
: 你儿子三岁半了，不是三个月半。
: 我觉得上面四条都不能接受。就算你儿子没意见，这些也不是好习惯。
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P***s
发帖数: 11672 | 13 用词精准啊
himself
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: My son does not show anger to her but will show anger to mom and dad if we
: follow him to the bathroom. Also he is in the age try to do thing by himself
: , but he does not show anger to grandma when grandma interferes him.
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b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 14 I told her it is illegal to watch or touch kids jj, if my son tells his
teacher someone touched his jj, the person will be in trouble.
But for the first 3, I do not know how to say.
【在 P***s 的大作中提到】
: 你心里觉得那4条都不正常，那就和你婆婆讲。记得回来follow up，我们大家都想知道
: 结果怎样。
:
: let
: my
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 15 Send your son to preschool
Let grandma help with the new born
You can't make one love another one, it's there, there is it
Ask your hub to talk to his mom
Protect your son's ability and desire to be independent is important,
everything else is not a big deal to me |
P***s
发帖数: 11672 | 16 那如果大家说不正常，你就知道怎么说了？
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: I told her it is illegal to watch or touch kids jj, if my son tells his
: teacher someone touched his jj, the person will be in trouble.
: But for the first 3, I do not know how to say.
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 17 4 you post when he was a baby
So, she stopes doing that?
if so, let it go |
b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 18 The reason I am so concerned is because my son will a 3-week break soon. And
she does not respect my son's opinions.
【在 i**e 的大作中提到】
: Send your son to preschool
: Let grandma help with the new born
: You can't make one love another one, it's there, there is it
: Ask your hub to talk to his mom
: Protect your son's ability and desire to be independent is important,
: everything else is not a big deal to me
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b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 19 Yes, she stoped. I listed there just want to see what you guys think, does
she has some issue with kids or not.
【在 i**e 的大作中提到】
: 4 you post when he was a baby
: So, she stopes doing that?
: if so, let it go
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b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 20 Still do not know how to talk to her. But if you guys think it is normal, I might think I am over reacting and stop thinking about it.
【在 P***s 的大作中提到】
: 那如果大家说不正常，你就知道怎么说了？
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P***s
发帖数: 11672 | 21 那，就别talk了。
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: Still do not know how to talk to her. But if you guys think it is normal, I might think I am over reacting and stop thinking about it.
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 22 What has happened?
give some example of her trying to interfere and your son did,and she
reacted as...
What's your hub's attitude and opinions on these occasions?
tell more on facts,acts,it is hard to address a generalized issue
And
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: The reason I am so concerned is because my son will a 3-week break soon. And
: she does not respect my son's opinions.
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b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 23 Examples are: She would cook pork soup, or chinese rice soup, and my son
does not like to drink, but she will persuade him in all kinds of ways to
let him drink, I can guess if we are not home, she will shout at him.
Actually infront of her, my son always obeys her. My son treats his teachers
like friends, says no to them if he does not like something, but he obeys
his grandma.
She will pull on pants for him after pee, my son would not say anything, if
I or dad does that, he will scream or push
【在 i**e 的大作中提到】
: What has happened?
: give some example of her trying to interfere and your son did,and she
: reacted as...
: What's your hub's attitude and opinions on these occasions?
: tell more on facts,acts,it is hard to address a generalized issue
:
: And
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S****p
发帖数: 3928 | 24 我家是丫头，2岁半。
我是教育她不要让别人看她的private parts, 更不要说碰了。
她poop还要我们帮忙擦屁股，所以我们是跟去厕所的。
关于其他的，我们都是鼓励她自己的事自己做，
所以不管grandma的行为是不是正常，我都会反对的。
we
himself
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: My son does not show anger to her but will show anger to mom and dad if we
: follow him to the bathroom. Also he is in the age try to do thing by himself
: , but he does not show anger to grandma when grandma interferes him.
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n****y
发帖数: 6260 | |
b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 26 I know I am picky, but I am a mom for my son.
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: 你婆婆真倒霉
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S****p
发帖数: 3928 | 27 我不这样认为。
小孩子的好的习惯要从小培养。而且好习惯培养起来难，毁起来就容易了。
我家丫头现在自己吃饭，睡觉，自己换衣服。。。如果我婆婆，或者我妈一定要喂她，
哄她睡觉，帮她
提裤子，估计不要三个星期，一个星期她就啥都不愿意自己干了。
当然娃一直是我和老公带，我们家人偶尔来玩，也会听我们的，不干涉我们带娃。
我觉得这没啥不好和grandma 说的，实话实说。
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: 你婆婆真倒霉
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n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 28 A mom for your son? So how many moms does your son have?
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: I know I am picky, but I am a mom for my son.
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b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 29 Do you think any caregiver should be counted as mom?
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: A mom for your son? So how many moms does your son have?
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n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 30 你说的这些我同意，但是楼住抱怨的显然不是这个。
我得跑去接娃儿了，但是你娃儿提裤子不用帮忙么？我娃儿迄今还只知道从前面提，基
本提不上去。
【在 S****p 的大作中提到】
: 我不这样认为。
: 小孩子的好的习惯要从小培养。而且好习惯培养起来难，毁起来就容易了。
: 我家丫头现在自己吃饭，睡觉，自己换衣服。。。如果我婆婆，或者我妈一定要喂她，
: 哄她睡觉，帮她
: 提裤子，估计不要三个星期，一个星期她就啥都不愿意自己干了。
: 当然娃一直是我和老公带，我们家人偶尔来玩，也会听我们的，不干涉我们带娃。
: 我觉得这没啥不好和grandma 说的，实话实说。
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b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 31 My son can put on pants all by himself. Put on shirts by himself. The only
difficulty is taking off shirts.
He is so proud he can ride two wheelers.
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: 你说的这些我同意，但是楼住抱怨的显然不是这个。
: 我得跑去接娃儿了，但是你娃儿提裤子不用帮忙么？我娃儿迄今还只知道从前面提，基
: 本提不上去。
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a*****r
发帖数: 1539 | 32 Am I BT? I don't feel she's abnormal. Even for #4, I think it's acceptable
because your son was still a little baby then. |
d********n
发帖数: 1013 | 33 除了最后一点以外都很正常.
to
when
the
my
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: (sorry, can not type Chinese here).
: My son is 3.5 years old and my second baby is on the way so Grandma came to
: help. But I become so nervous for the way grandma is treating my son. Here
: are some ways I feel uncomfortagble:
: 1. Grandma loves to touch my son, always try to hold him in her arms.
: 2. Grandma does not give privacy to my son, she runs into the bathroom when
: she heard my son need to poop and stay there watch him poop, that was in the
: mid of our lunch.
: 3. Grandma does not encourage indep
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S****p
发帖数: 3928 | 34 她可以啊。不穿尿布后，提裤子很容易。
她现在还不会扣扣子，所以裤子我一般都准备松紧带的或者legging啥的。
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: 你说的这些我同意，但是楼住抱怨的显然不是这个。
: 我得跑去接娃儿了，但是你娃儿提裤子不用帮忙么？我娃儿迄今还只知道从前面提，基
: 本提不上去。
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 35 What did you and your hub do when she persuaded your son?
Why do you think that your son obeys her not you and your hub?
what do you feel about this? Do you feel jealous?
Again, what's your hub's attitude? What kind of relationship he has with his
mom?
Have you talked to your son and find out how he feels about grandma's way of
taking care of him?
Sounds like that she has helped with you guys when your son was born, what
made you ask her help again if you are
not happy or at least have concerns
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: Examples are: She would cook pork soup, or chinese rice soup, and my son
: does not like to drink, but she will persuade him in all kinds of ways to
: let him drink, I can guess if we are not home, she will shout at him.
: Actually infront of her, my son always obeys her. My son treats his teachers
: like friends, says no to them if he does not like something, but he obeys
: his grandma.
: She will pull on pants for him after pee, my son would not say anything, if
: I or dad does that, he will scream or push
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a****l
发帖数: 6431 | 36 I think the real issue is you couldn't stand her being around.
Therefore maybe you shouldn't have invited her.
Now please find a gentle way to send her home. |
n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 37 落泪，我们还尿片儿呢。
那个，上衣自己能穿么？还是得再过一阵子？套头的小t-shirt那种。
【在 S****p 的大作中提到】
: 她可以啊。不穿尿布后，提裤子很容易。
: 她现在还不会扣扣子，所以裤子我一般都准备松紧带的或者legging啥的。
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n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 38 well, you said, and I quote "I am a mother of my son", which implies your
son has more than one mom, hence my question.
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: Do you think any caregiver should be counted as mom?
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s*y
发帖数: 18644 | 39 second this
【在 a****l 的大作中提到】
: I think the real issue is you couldn't stand her being around.
: Therefore maybe you shouldn't have invited her.
: Now please find a gentle way to send her home.
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S****p
发帖数: 3928 | 40 松的可以，紧的不行，她头大。
外套能穿一个袖子，然后要帮忙，可以自己拉拉链，但是不会扣扣子。
不用系鞋带的鞋可以自己穿。
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: 落泪，我们还尿片儿呢。
: 那个，上衣自己能穿么？还是得再过一阵子？套头的小t-shirt那种。
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M******n
发帖数: 144 | 41 seems all normal
for 4, you can talk to grandma....
to
when
the
my
【在 b**********d 的大作中提到】
: (sorry, can not type Chinese here).
: My son is 3.5 years old and my second baby is on the way so Grandma came to
: help. But I become so nervous for the way grandma is treating my son. Here
: are some ways I feel uncomfortagble:
: 1. Grandma loves to touch my son, always try to hold him in her arms.
: 2. Grandma does not give privacy to my son, she runs into the bathroom when
: she heard my son need to poop and stay there watch him poop, that was in the
: mid of our lunch.
: 3. Grandma does not encourage indep
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b**********d
发帖数: 419 | 42
【在 i**e 的大作中提到】
: What did you and your hub do when she persuaded your son?
: Why do you think that your son obeys her not you and your hub?
: what do you feel about this? Do you feel jealous?
: Again, what's your hub's attitude? What kind of relationship he has with his
: mom?
: Have you talked to your son and find out how he feels about grandma's way of
: taking care of him?
: Sounds like that she has helped with you guys when your son was born, what
: made you ask her help again if you are
: not happy or at least have concerns
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