a******s
发帖数: 821 | 1 前段时间巴黎事件发生后，我们看新闻比较多，儿子就跟我们说不要看这些了，说怕，
都是讲吓人的东西，还有死什么的。平时上学回来和小朋友玩什么的都没事，安静下来
或是睡觉前，就会提起说怕这些事情。之前读raz-kids里面有讲asthma的，也是老是担
心他会得asthma，和他解释了好多次也没用，他就是concern。以至于好长时间都不肯
读raz-kids了。图书馆借来的讲历史人物也不肯读，说是要讲到“那些人死”。最近稍
微好点了，我让继续读raz-kids，结果今天读的是印度甘地的故事，读到一半就跟我说
，“你看嘛，还是讲到死人的事情！” 睡觉前一直说怕，说书里面讲到甘地被'shot 3
times'。我和他解释那时发生在以前的事情，那个时候战争，现在我们这儿没有战争
（心里无法欺骗自己，这个世道太不太平了）。爸爸妈妈会在身边保护你的。儿子居然
说，万一你们被shot了，就只有我一个人了，然后就要哭了。我当时心里难受极了。现
在很担心他心里阴影太大，不利于他快乐成长。好像这么小的年龄不太适合接受战争，
死亡，恐怖袭击这类话题。我想起我小时候也是很怕这类话题，也是很担心离开家人。
我告诉他以后遇到历史人物的故事可以不读了。我跟他讲忘掉那些不愉快的，想高兴的
事情，可是他说can not get rid of it. 心理阴影已经造成了，怎么能减小影响，如
何做心理疏通能？ | h******w
发帖数: 298 | 2 你就不能讲一点儿乐观的故事吗？谁喜欢听你这种故事 | c*******g
发帖数: 35 | 3 孩子对于巴黎事件的反应是正常的。很多专业组织（比如美国学校心理学会）都发表了
相关文章给家长和老师提供具体的建议。下面是从他们网页上复制来的
Helping Children Cope With Terrorism - Tips for Families and Educators
Intentional acts of violence that hurt innocent people are frightening and
upsetting. Children and youth will look to adults for information and
guidance on how to react. Families and school personnel can help children
cope first and foremost by establishing a sense of safety and security. As
information becomes available, adults can continue to help children work
through their emotions and, perhaps, even use the process as a learning
experience.
All Adults Should:
1.Model calm and control. Children take their emotional cues from the
significant adults in their lives. Avoid appearing anxious or frightened.
2.Reassure children they are safe and (if true) so are the important adults
and other loved ones in their lives. Depending on the situation, point out
factors that help ensure their immediate safety and that of their community.
3.Remind them trustworthy people are in charge. Explain that emergency
workers, police, firefighters, doctors, and the government are helping
people who are hurt and are working to ensure that no further tragedies like
this occur.
4.Let children know it is okay to feel upset. Explain all feelings are okay
when a tragedy like this occurs. Let children talk about their feelings and
help put them into perspective. Even anger is okay, but children may need
help and patience from adults to assist them in expressing these feelings
appropriately.
5.Tell children the truth. Don't try to pretend the event has not occurred
or that it is not serious. Children are smart. They will be more worried if
they think you are too afraid to tell them what is happening. At the same
time it will be important to tell children that while the threat of
terrorism is real, the chances they will be personally affected is low
6.Stick to the facts. Don't embellish or speculate about what has happened,
or where another attack might occur. Don't dwell on the scale or scope of
the tragedy, particularly with young children.
7.Be careful not to stereotype people or countries that might be associated
with the violence. Children can easily generalize negative statements and
develop prejudice. Talk about tolerance and justice versus vengeance. Stop
any bullying or teasing immediately.
8.Keep your explanations developmentally appropriate. Early elementary
school children need brief, simple information that should be balanced with
reassurances that the daily structures of their lives will not change. Upper
elementary and early middle school children will be more vocal in asking
questions about whether they truly are safe. They may need assistance
separating reality from fantasy. Upper middle school and high school
students will have strong and varying opinions about the causes of violence
and threats to safety in schools and society. They will share concrete
suggestions about how to make school safer and how to prevent tragedies in
society. They will be more committed to doing something to help the victims
and affected community. For all children, encourage them to verbalize their
thoughts and feelings. Be a good listener!
9.Maintain a "normal" routine. To the extent possible stick to normal
classroom or family routines but don't be inflexible. Children may have a
hard time concentrating on schoolwork or falling asleep at night.
10.Monitor or restrict exposure to scenes of the event as well as the
aftermath. In particular, monitor exposure to social media. For older
children, caution against accessing news coverage from only one source.
11.Observe children's emotional state. Depending on their age, children may
not express their concerns verbally. Changes in behavior, appetite, and
sleep patterns can also indicate a child's level of grief, anxiety or
discomfort. Children will express their emotions differently. There is no
right or wrong way to feel or express fear or grief.
12.Be aware of children at greater risk. Children who have a connection to
this particular event, have had a past traumatic experience or personal loss
, suffer from depression or other mental illness, or with special needs may
be at greater risk for severe reactions than others. Be particularly
observant for those who may be at risk of suicide. Seek the help of a mental
health professional if you are at all concerned.
13.Provide an outlet for students' desire to help. Consider making get well
cards or sending letters to the families and survivors of the tragedy, or
writing thank you letters to doctors, nurses, and other health care
professionals as well as emergency rescue workers, firefighters and police.
14.Keep lines of communication open between home and school. Schools are a
good place for children to experience a sense of normalcy. Being with their
friends and teachers is helpful. Schools should inform families about
available resources, such as talking points or counseling, and plans for
information sharing and discussions with students. Parents should let their
child's teacher or school mental health professional know if they have
concerns or feel their child may need extra support.
15.Monitor your own stress level. Don't ignore your own feelings of anxiety,
grief, and anger. Talking to friends, family members, religious leaders,
and mental health counselors can help. It is okay to let your children know
you are sad, but that you believe things will get better. You will be better
able to support your children if you can express your own emotions in a
productive manner. Get appropriate sleep, nutrition, and exercise.
© 2015, National Association of School Psychologists, 4340 East West
Highway, Suite 402, Bethesda, MD 20814, (301) 657-0270, Fax (301) 657-0275; | c*******g
发帖数: 35 | 4 如果这个问题影响到日常生活学习，建议和孩子一起读这本心理知识普及的书，很通俗
易懂。
What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety (
What to Do Guides for Kids)Sep 15, 2005
by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews
amazon 上面就有。 | G***W
发帖数: 1967 | 5 玻璃心到底啥意思？
玻璃心
网络词语更多义项
玻璃心，一种网络用语。
中文名
玻璃心
外文名
Bo li xin
原义
玻璃般容易碎裂
指很容易就受到打击，内心过于敏感的人。直接的字面意思指内心太脆弱敏感，非常非
常容易受到伤害的人。.进一步引申意义为，别人不经意的玩笑话或打趣，都能使他受
到伤害，胡思乱想。网络上一般都是用这层意思。
7岁么？那不是正常？lz和月光一样挖坑？seeking attention 么？
如果我误会了你，请pm我。
我会跟贴继续讨论。。。我的每一分钟都很值钱。。。。
我的gs 是Goldman sucks 的意思。。
3
【在 a******s 的大作中提到】
: 前段时间巴黎事件发生后，我们看新闻比较多，儿子就跟我们说不要看这些了，说怕，
: 都是讲吓人的东西，还有死什么的。平时上学回来和小朋友玩什么的都没事，安静下来
: 或是睡觉前，就会提起说怕这些事情。之前读raz-kids里面有讲asthma的，也是老是担
: 心他会得asthma，和他解释了好多次也没用，他就是concern。以至于好长时间都不肯
: 读raz-kids了。图书馆借来的讲历史人物也不肯读，说是要讲到“那些人死”。最近稍
: 微好点了，我让继续读raz-kids，结果今天读的是印度甘地的故事，读到一半就跟我说
: ，“你看嘛，还是讲到死人的事情！” 睡觉前一直说怕，说书里面讲到甘地被'shot 3
: times'。我和他解释那时发生在以前的事情，那个时候战争，现在我们这儿没有战争
: （心里无法欺骗自己，这个世道太不太平了）。爸爸妈妈会在身边保护你的。儿子居然
: 说，万一你们被shot了，就只有我一个人了，然后就要哭了。我当时心里难受极了。现
| a******s
发帖数: 821 | 6 非常感谢你的推荐和转来的文章。上一个星期刚好有家长会，我还和老师反映了这个情
况。老师对发生的那个事件也表示难过，但没提到学校会在这方面有什么针对小孩子的
心理辅导或是应对紧急情况的措施。其实有时候作为家长也很难把握对这类事件怎么向
孩子解释的度。可能这也是学校的顾虑。类似的话题还有死亡，疾病，种族歧视，宗教
，人生等等一些话题不知道是不是适合和孩子探讨，或是以何种方式探讨。在现在这个
不稳定的社会，其实好多问题不仅仅是小孩子会担忧，成年人也会有同样的担忧甚至是
恐惧。
【在 c*******g 的大作中提到】
: 如果这个问题影响到日常生活学习，建议和孩子一起读这本心理知识普及的书，很通俗
: 易懂。
: What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety (
: What to Do Guides for Kids)Sep 15, 2005
: by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews
: amazon 上面就有。
| G***W
发帖数: 1967 | 7 7岁的孩子能读？7岁孩子刚刚读chapter book....
Anxiety 的专业evaluation standards 是什么？
如果成立，解决方案是什么。。。。
Wtf, 正如潮水说，如果这一切这里都free 得到。。。。。那将砸了多少人的饭碗，那
是总统都要着急的unemployment issue了。。。。我承认这个网站给了我很多，。。我
这么灌水就是一种贡献，一种感恩了。。。。
【在 c*******g 的大作中提到】
: 如果这个问题影响到日常生活学习，建议和孩子一起读这本心理知识普及的书，很通俗
: 易懂。
: What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety (
: What to Do Guides for Kids)Sep 15, 2005
: by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews
: amazon 上面就有。
| G***W
发帖数: 1967 | 8 这个很好。
谢谢。马上包子送上。
【在 c*******g 的大作中提到】
: 孩子对于巴黎事件的反应是正常的。很多专业组织（比如美国学校心理学会）都发表了
: 相关文章给家长和老师提供具体的建议。下面是从他们网页上复制来的
: Helping Children Cope With Terrorism - Tips for Families and Educators
: Intentional acts of violence that hurt innocent people are frightening and
: upsetting. Children and youth will look to adults for information and
: guidance on how to react. Families and school personnel can help children
: cope first and foremost by establishing a sense of safety and security. As
: information becomes available, adults can continue to help children work
: through their emotions and, perhaps, even use the process as a learning
: experience.
| G***W
发帖数: 1967 | 9 寄信人: deliver (自动发信系统)
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发帖数: 384 | 10 如果孩子或家长都对死亡一类的事情有恐惧和焦虑，
倒是可以试试了解基督教。
对死亡就没什么恐惧感了。
3
【在 a******s 的大作中提到】
: 前段时间巴黎事件发生后，我们看新闻比较多，儿子就跟我们说不要看这些了，说怕，
: 都是讲吓人的东西，还有死什么的。平时上学回来和小朋友玩什么的都没事，安静下来
: 或是睡觉前，就会提起说怕这些事情。之前读raz-kids里面有讲asthma的，也是老是担
: 心他会得asthma，和他解释了好多次也没用，他就是concern。以至于好长时间都不肯
: 读raz-kids了。图书馆借来的讲历史人物也不肯读，说是要讲到“那些人死”。最近稍
: 微好点了，我让继续读raz-kids，结果今天读的是印度甘地的故事，读到一半就跟我说
: ，“你看嘛，还是讲到死人的事情！” 睡觉前一直说怕，说书里面讲到甘地被'shot 3
: times'。我和他解释那时发生在以前的事情，那个时候战争，现在我们这儿没有战争
: （心里无法欺骗自己，这个世道太不太平了）。爸爸妈妈会在身边保护你的。儿子居然
: 说，万一你们被shot了，就只有我一个人了，然后就要哭了。我当时心里难受极了。现
| | | c*******g
发帖数: 35 | 11 同意你说的。可见你是一个很关心孩子的家长：）这些话题都很重要，但是如何
developmentally appropriate 的方式和孩子交流确实不容易。你和老师交流也很重要
。如果老师,或者学校里面的counselor, school psychologist 能够浅显的讲一些这类
的话题，对孩子也有帮助。NASPonline有很多不错的parent handout.
http://www.nasponline.org/resources-and-publications/resources/
Inside Out 这个电影用于孩子的 emotional education 也很不错。
【在 a******s 的大作中提到】
: 非常感谢你的推荐和转来的文章。上一个星期刚好有家长会，我还和老师反映了这个情
: 况。老师对发生的那个事件也表示难过，但没提到学校会在这方面有什么针对小孩子的
: 心理辅导或是应对紧急情况的措施。其实有时候作为家长也很难把握对这类事件怎么向
: 孩子解释的度。可能这也是学校的顾虑。类似的话题还有死亡，疾病，种族歧视，宗教
: ，人生等等一些话题不知道是不是适合和孩子探讨，或是以何种方式探讨。在现在这个
: 不稳定的社会，其实好多问题不仅仅是小孩子会担忧，成年人也会有同样的担忧甚至是
: 恐惧。
| c*******g
发帖数: 35 | 12 同意你说的。可见你是一个很关心孩子的家长：）这些话题都很重要，但是如何
developmentally appropriate 的方式和孩子交流确实不容易。你和老师交流也很重要
。如果老师,或者学校里面的counselor, school psychologist 能够浅显的讲一些这类
的话题，对孩子也有帮助。NASPonline有很多不错的parent handout.
http://www.nasponline.org/resources-and-publications/resources/
Inside Out 这个电影用于孩子的 emotional education 也很不错。
【在 a******s 的大作中提到】
: 非常感谢你的推荐和转来的文章。上一个星期刚好有家长会，我还和老师反映了这个情
: 况。老师对发生的那个事件也表示难过，但没提到学校会在这方面有什么针对小孩子的
: 心理辅导或是应对紧急情况的措施。其实有时候作为家长也很难把握对这类事件怎么向
: 孩子解释的度。可能这也是学校的顾虑。类似的话题还有死亡，疾病，种族歧视，宗教
: ，人生等等一些话题不知道是不是适合和孩子探讨，或是以何种方式探讨。在现在这个
: 不稳定的社会，其实好多问题不仅仅是小孩子会担忧，成年人也会有同样的担忧甚至是
: 恐惧。
| c*******g
发帖数: 35 | 13 这套书是不少心理医生推荐的self help book. 当然 self help books 不能给代替
seeking professional help when needed.
【在 G***W 的大作中提到】
: 7岁的孩子能读？7岁孩子刚刚读chapter book....
: Anxiety 的专业evaluation standards 是什么？
: 如果成立，解决方案是什么。。。。
: Wtf, 正如潮水说，如果这一切这里都free 得到。。。。。那将砸了多少人的饭碗，那
: 是总统都要着急的unemployment issue了。。。。我承认这个网站给了我很多，。。我
: 这么灌水就是一种贡献，一种感恩了。。。。
| d**********h
发帖数: 2795 | 14 多谢
收藏
【在 c*******g 的大作中提到】
: 同意你说的。可见你是一个很关心孩子的家长：）这些话题都很重要，但是如何
: developmentally appropriate 的方式和孩子交流确实不容易。你和老师交流也很重要
: 。如果老师,或者学校里面的counselor, school psychologist 能够浅显的讲一些这类
: 的话题，对孩子也有帮助。NASPonline有很多不错的parent handout.
: http://www.nasponline.org/resources-and-publications/resources/
: Inside Out 这个电影用于孩子的 emotional education 也很不错。
| p*****y
发帖数: 1982 | 15 这不算是玻璃心，孩子比较早熟，这些问题一般都是14岁之后才开始思考的。爹妈的三
观教育要跟上，不能再当成小孩子教育了。得给他讲点哲学，让他知道生老病死，新陈
代谢是自然规律。重要的不是我们什么时候死，而是活着的时候应该做什么。
3
【在 a******s 的大作中提到】
: 前段时间巴黎事件发生后，我们看新闻比较多，儿子就跟我们说不要看这些了，说怕，
: 都是讲吓人的东西，还有死什么的。平时上学回来和小朋友玩什么的都没事，安静下来
: 或是睡觉前，就会提起说怕这些事情。之前读raz-kids里面有讲asthma的，也是老是担
: 心他会得asthma，和他解释了好多次也没用，他就是concern。以至于好长时间都不肯
: 读raz-kids了。图书馆借来的讲历史人物也不肯读，说是要讲到“那些人死”。最近稍
: 微好点了，我让继续读raz-kids，结果今天读的是印度甘地的故事，读到一半就跟我说
: ，“你看嘛，还是讲到死人的事情！” 睡觉前一直说怕，说书里面讲到甘地被'shot 3
: times'。我和他解释那时发生在以前的事情，那个时候战争，现在我们这儿没有战争
: （心里无法欺骗自己，这个世道太不太平了）。爸爸妈妈会在身边保护你的。儿子居然
: 说，万一你们被shot了，就只有我一个人了，然后就要哭了。我当时心里难受极了。现
| f*******r
发帖数: 1348 | 16 我家女儿五岁前也经常说怕死，因为有看过一些动画片会提到这个。大些了，我们尽量
避免在她面前提到这些事情。等她大了自然会慢慢接受生命的过程。就像我自己一样。
其实人都是越来越坚强的。 | f*******r
发帖数: 1348 | 17 我家女儿五岁前也经常说怕死，因为有看过一些动画片会提到这个。大些了，我们尽量
避免在她面前提到这些事情。等她大了自然会慢慢接受生命的过程。就像我自己一样。
其实人都是越来越坚强的。 | l*****0
发帖数: 397 | 18 死啊活啊这些话题在女儿四岁就提了。可能我们本身没什么忌讳。让孩子了解生命是个
过程。就是有一次电视里放有个婴儿被卡下水道。搞得她后来每次上厕所都要我陪，害
怕自己掉进去。现在慢慢就好多了。 | i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 19 Be honest and face it
我娃三岁多就开始问及生死的问题了
个人认为躲避这个问题是没有用的
为什么不可以直接说，人都有一死呢？
asthma的事，年检的时候，让医生直接跟他谈嘛
既然孩子有你们不在了他怎么办的担心
那你们有没有买保险？有没有遗嘱？有没有可以托付的人呢？
Death does not matter, what does matter is how one lives one's life, right？
推荐本少儿读物
Kira Kira
http://www.amazon.com/Kira-Kira-Cynthia-Kadohata-ebook/dp/B001D
kira-kira (kee' ra kee' ra): glittering; shining
Glittering. That's how Katie Takeshima's sister, Lynn, makes everything seem
. The sky is kira-kira because its color is deep but see-through at the same
time. The sea is kira-kira for the same reason. And so are people's eyes.
When Katie and her family move from a Japanese community in Iowa to the Deep
South of Georgia, it's Lynn who explains to her why people stop them on the
street to stare. And it's Lynn who, with her special way of viewing the
world, teaches Katie to look beyond tomorrow. But when Lynn becomes
desperately ill, and the whole family begins to fall apart, it is up to
Katie to find a way to remind them all that there is always something
glittering -- kira-kira -- in the future.
Luminous in its persistence of love and hope, Kira-Kira is Cynthia Kadohata
's stunning debut in middle-grade fiction.
这本书，你可以跟你孩子一起读
然后一起讨论
Lynn,最后被病魔夺去了生命，但是她给Katie留下了很珍贵的东西
这本书让我们懂得珍惜生命感激生命帮助我们更坦然地正视死亡
【在 a******s 的大作中提到】
: 前段时间巴黎事件发生后，我们看新闻比较多，儿子就跟我们说不要看这些了，说怕，
: 都是讲吓人的东西，还有死什么的。平时上学回来和小朋友玩什么的都没事，安静下来
: 或是睡觉前，就会提起说怕这些事情。之前读raz-kids里面有讲asthma的，也是老是担
: 心他会得asthma，和他解释了好多次也没用，他就是concern。以至于好长时间都不肯
: 读raz-kids了。图书馆借来的讲历史人物也不肯读，说是要讲到“那些人死”。最近稍
: 微好点了，我让继续读raz-kids，结果今天读的是印度甘地的故事，读到一半就跟我说
: ，“你看嘛，还是讲到死人的事情！” 睡觉前一直说怕，说书里面讲到甘地被'shot 3
: times'。我和他解释那时发生在以前的事情，那个时候战争，现在我们这儿没有战争
: （心里无法欺骗自己，这个世道太不太平了）。爸爸妈妈会在身边保护你的。儿子居然
: 说，万一你们被shot了，就只有我一个人了，然后就要哭了。我当时心里难受极了。现
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发帖数: 19242 | 20 lz的孩子是比较敏感不是玻璃心吧？
我再推荐几本男孩子可能也会喜欢的书
基本上是身出逆境的故事，比较有启发性比较正能量，呵呵
Wonder
http://www.amazon.com/Wonder-R-J-Palacio-ebook/dp/B0051ANPZQ/re
I won't describe what I look like. Whatever you're thinking, it's probably
worse.
August Pullman was born with a facial difference that, up until now, has
prevented him from going to a mainstream school. Starting 5th grade at
Beecher Prep, he wants nothing more than to be treated as an ordinary kid—
but his new classmates can’t get past Auggie’s extraordinary face.
Holes
http://www.amazon.com/Holes-Louis-Sachar-ebook/dp/B004ZZH4V4/re
This winner of the Newbery Medal and the National Book Award features
Stanley Yelnats, a kid who is under a curse. A curse that began with his no-
good-dirty-rotten-pig-stealing-great-great-grandfather and has since
followed generations of Yelnats. Now Stanley has been unjustly sent to a
boys' detention center, Camp Green Lake, where the warden makes the boys "
build character" by spending all day, every day, digging holes five feet
wide and five feet deep. It doesn't take long for Stanley to realize there's
more than character improvement going on at Camp Green Lake: the warden is
looking for something. Stanley tries to dig up the truth in this inventive
and darkly humorous tale of crime and punishment—and redemption.
Out of mind
http://www.amazon.com/Out-My-Mind-Sharon-Draper-ebook/dp/B003AT
Eleven-year-old Melody has a photographic memory. Her head is like a video
camera that is always recording. Always. And there's no delete button. She's
the smartest kid in her whole school—but no one knows it. Most people—her
teachers and doctors included—don't think she's capable of learning, and
up until recently her school days consisted of listening to the same
preschool-level alphabet lessons again and again and again. If only she
could speak up, if only she could tell people what she thinks and knows . .
. but she can't, because Melody can't talk. She can't walk. She can't write.
Being stuck inside her head is making Melody go out of her mind—that is,
until she discovers something that will allow her to speak for the first
time ever. At last Melody has a voice . . . but not everyone around her is
ready to hear it.From multiple Coretta Scott King Award winner Sharon M.
Draper comes a story full of heartache and hope. Get ready to meet a girl
whose voice you'll never, ever forget. |
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