谁想不想付出，至少谁也不想先付出。谁也不想爱对方，只想对方来爱自己。谁也不想
追求对方，只想对方来追求自己。
都自己小算盘打得噼啪响，想着只要自己不付出就不会吃亏，有人对我好那最好，白捡
了个便宜，没人愿意对我好，我也没亏，因为我也没对别人好。
都以为别人是傻瓜，结果就是中国人最典型的lose-lose局面。
if s/he is not asking you out
if s/he is not calling you
if s/he is not dating you
if s/he is not having sex with you
if s/he is having sex with someone else
if s/he only wants to see you when s/he's drunk
if s/he is breaking up with you
if s/he has disappeared on you
if s/he doesn't want to marry you
if s/he's married
if s/he's a selfish jerk, a bully or a really big freak
