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SW12345 • 5 months ago
Hi NM – I am truly sorry for the disappointment and doubt your son must
feel and the pain no doubt you endure as a parent wishing only happiness for
her child. I hope the below helps:
I was a college tour guide at Yale. I received many questions like yours.
What does my child have to do to secure admission? What types of
achievements does Yale value most? How could they not select my child – he/
she has a perfect resume? Unfortunately, all of these questions fail to
effectively frame the problem at hand. Similarly, this thread of comments
has missed perhaps the most important differentiator of any college
application. An effective application connects an applicant’s success to
that of a goal school and its community.
Attending Yale – or any top 25 college – is indeed a privilege, if not
experientially then at the very least statistically. Admissions offers want
to know that the individuals they select to attend have a clear
understanding of how they will contribute to a school.
As an applicant, you need to express directly, effectively and intimately
why you are applying to that particular institution. Why is that school the
best fit for you? What do you want to achieve and how do those goals align
with the school’s academic,
social and extracurricular offerings? What will you give back? How will you
leverage your skills and talents to better a school, its community and
society?
Additionally, selective colleges also want to be selected. By the applicant!
Admissions officers want to feel that, beyond being a great fit, you are
likely to attend. If you don’t make the AdCom believe you will attend its
school by effectively answering the questions above, then you may be viewed
as a wasted offer.
I obviously have not read your sons applications and I do not underestimate
the amount of energy he put in to them. However, a few facts in your/his
pattern jump out as suggesting he may not have addressed the above
considerations.
First – 12 schools! Holy lord! I just applied to business school
successfully and put in applications to only three schools. I applied to
only thee colleges as well. I spent weeks on each application tailoring it
to the specific school, learning and then
articulating exactly what that school had to offer both for my benefit and
its. With 12 applications to complete, I would imagine this sort of intimacy
is hard to achieve.
Second – it’s not all about your son (I don’t mean that harshly, just as
fact). Asking what is wrong with his resume or pedigree suggests you are not
seeing the bigger picture. Your son’s applications must speak to more than
his GPA, scores, activities, etc. Otherwise, he is no more than a resume.
An application must speak to the intersection of the applicant and the
school.
Lastly, I would just like to register that, in my personal experience, Yale
is not some bastion of elitism. The students I met were among the most
humble, curious and excited individuals I have had the privilege of knowing.
I have encountered far more snobbish individuals outside of Yale. It is
very easy when one feels slighted to judge in return, but a true mark of
superiority is modesty and understanding. |