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Wisdom版 - How To Love Yourself In 17 Ways
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J******s
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http://www.abundancetapestry.com/how-to-love-yourself-in-17-way
I have compiled a list on “how to love yourself” for readers who are
facing difficulty knowing what to do in embracing themselves. When I first
began to be aware that I need to love myself first prior to developing any
meaningful relationships with others, I realized that I did not know where
to start.
This was a surprise to me then as I would have thought I’d be an expert on
love and relationships by then. After all, as I recalled, in my younger days
, I have spent much time looking for the best spouse or romantic partner.
But I soon realized that my search was meant to fill the void or emptiness I
had inside. Finding a good relationship with myself seemed to be an even
harder task! However, as things turned out, I found myself failing miserably
in my early relationships because I had insufficient or little self love.
I have found that self-esteem and self-love are issues that are often
related together. If you suffer from low self esteem, it is possible that
the the root cause is a case of insufficient self-love. And so, you have
found it difficult to find that little bit of love for yourself. Loving
yourself feels unnatural for a start because your mind has been ingrained
with self sabotaging thoughts for the longest time.
However, nothing is going to happen if you do not make a conscious decision.
And that includes attracting abundance. When you don’t love yourself, you
are basically telling the Universe that you are unworthy or undeserving of
any love or positive outcomes that have the same vibrational match as love.
Learning to love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an
intention to become happy and lead a fulfilled life. When you do not love
yourself and suffer from low self esteem, it is almost impossible to ever
reach the potential that you suspect you have.
“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.”
Lucille Ball quotes (American radio and motion-picture actress and comedy
star, 1911-1989)
When you make a decision to love yourself, you are really saying that you
want to come alive. You accept that you are responsible for the outcomes
that you experience in your life and would like yourself to shine from
living a fulfilling life.
So if you’ve decided on loving yourself but are as equally stumped on how
to love yourself, as I was back then, here are 17 ways which I believe can
be helpful:
1. Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you You. Just like a
flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way.
Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the
fact that you are imperfect. This does not mean that you do not learn to
change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to
yourself despite all your “flaws”. Look in the mirror and fall in love
with the reflection that is You.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
Oscar Wilde quotes (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 1854-1900)
2. Eliminate Self Criticism. Do you often berate yourself over the tiniest
thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that
you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes. If you find that
you criticize yourself often, make an effort to stop the self criticism.
“I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ.” — unknown
3. Be Kind And Positive. When you start to think kindly and positively about
yourself, the love you have for yourself just grows. Make it a habit to
praise yourself everyday, while in the front of the mirror. Because of such
thoughts, you naturally undertake empowering actions that support your
development.
4. Acknowledge Your Effort. It is not always about winning or coming up tops
in everything that you do. Many times, it is the effort that counts!
Acknowledge that you have done your best, even if you have failed to produce
tangible results.
5. Let Go Of Worry. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It
is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. I can
attest to that! Worry does not help in any way. It cannot, on its own, make
things happen. Only wise actions can! So instead of worrying, spend time
thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is
beyond your control, then make a request to the Universe/God about what you
want. Next, surrender your outcome.
“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about
things which are beyond the power of our will.” — Epictetus quotes (Greek
philosopher associated with the Stoics, AD 55-c.135)
6. Trust Yourself. Have confidence in your abilities. Know that you have the
ability to make important changes for yourself, for as long as you put your
heart to it. You can also support yourself by visualizing desired outcomes.
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”
Benjamin Spock quotes (American Pediatrician and Author, 1903-1998)
7. Forgive Yourself. If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused
you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make
mistakes; so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them. Also, if
you have been carrying around a baggage of emotional hurt because of a
childhood trauma, learn to forgive yourself.
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was
you.”
Lewis B. Smedes quotes
8. Be Truthful To Yourself. Loving yourself requires you to be truthful
about your own feelings. If you are happy, acknowledge the joy. If you are
sad, acknowledge the sorrow. When you are truthful about your feelings, you
do not try to lie to yourself or seek to bury your negative emotions.
Instead, acknowledging what you feel provides a good guide to what your
thoughts are. And as we all know, thoughts can be changed, so that healing
and self growth can take place.
9. Grow Spiritually. When you spend time growing spiritually, loving
yourself becomes automatic. You become more peaceful, connected, kind,
loving and compassionate. You nurture a mind that grows more beautiful by
the day. You naturally love yourself in the process.
10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday. Reframe your mind with positive
affirmations. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept myself
completely and unconditionally.” Read your affirmations out loud several
times a day.
11. Express Gratitude. Express gratitude for the person that you are. For
instance, cultivate an appreciation for your strengths and gifts. Also, feel
a sense of gratitude that you are alive and well, and fully capable of
making a difference in your life.
12. Nurture Your Dreams. Why deny yourself your dreams? When you nurture
your dreams, you would love the life that you are leading. Every moment that
you live is a joy because you are expressing yourself fully.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you
didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away
from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream.
Discover. —Mark Twain
13. Boost Your Self Confidence. Make a deliberate attempt to look for
opportunities that can help improve your confidence. For instance, if you
are particularly good at doing something, set aside more time to indulge and
improve your skills on it. Knowing that you have particular gifts can boost
your self esteem.
14. Relax. Give yourself space to take breaks every now and then. If you
spend your time working, without paying attention to your health, it also
means that you do not love yourself well enough to take care of your own
body. Fill your time with silence, soothing music and visions of beauty;
anything that nourishes your Soul.
15. Have Fun. Inject some fun into your life. Life is meant to be an
enjoyable. Don’t take life or yourself too seriously. If you can think of
life in this manner, you automatically relax and quit worrying over things
that do not matter.
16. Look After Your Body. It is important that you strengthen yourself with
proper nutrition and regular exercise. Your body is a temple and you should
treat it with respect, love and care. It has been found that the lack of
self love is often the root causes of conditions like eating disorders,
obesity or even terminal diseases.
“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”
Jim Rohn quotes (American Speaker and Author. He is famous for motivational
audio programs for Business and Life. )
17. Learn To See Beauty. When you learn to see beauty in every thing, you
will also see beauty in yourself. Hence, stop to smell the flowers. Notice
everything. Feel everything. The pink blush of the flowers in your garden,
the greenness of the plains, the whisper of the gentle wind, or the myriad
hues of an evening sky.
Here is a good affirmation to read and reflect on…..
“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me.
Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose
it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice,
all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my
dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures
and mistakes.
Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so
doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are
aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know —
but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and
hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about
me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and
feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of
how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can
discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for
that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have
the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make
sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”
Denis2005 Virginia Satir quotes (American Psychologist and Educator, 1916-
1988)
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L**********s
发帖数: 12988
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re
It is always easier to love others, but difficult to love ourselves.
J******s
发帖数: 7538
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我觉得不能爱自己的人,基本上也无力爱别人的


【在 L**********s 的大作中提到】
: re
: It is always easier to love others, but difficult to love ourselves.

L**********s
发帖数: 12988
4
再推荐一本书
A Woman's Worth, by Marianne Williamson
w*****r
发帖数: 7106
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做人不能太小乘。

on
days
I

【在 J******s 的大作中提到】
: http://www.abundancetapestry.com/how-to-love-yourself-in-17-way
: I have compiled a list on “how to love yourself” for readers who are
: facing difficulty knowing what to do in embracing themselves. When I first
: began to be aware that I need to love myself first prior to developing any
: meaningful relationships with others, I realized that I did not know where
: to start.
: This was a surprise to me then as I would have thought I’d be an expert on
: love and relationships by then. After all, as I recalled, in my younger days
: , I have spent much time looking for the best spouse or romantic partner.
: But I soon realized that my search was meant to fill the void or emptiness I

J******s
发帖数: 7538
6
哪儿小乘了?

【在 w*****r 的大作中提到】
: 做人不能太小乘。
:
: on
: days
: I

J******s
发帖数: 7538
7
Thanks!
:p

【在 L**********s 的大作中提到】
: 再推荐一本书
: A Woman's Worth, by Marianne Williamson

w*****r
发帖数: 7106
8
从标题到正文,满篇都小乘。

【在 J******s 的大作中提到】
: 哪儿小乘了?
l*******l
发帖数: 13923
9
过年啦! 谈谈喜庆的?

【在 J******s 的大作中提到】
: 哪儿小乘了?
w*****r
发帖数: 7106
10
马P精喜庆不喜庆?

【在 l*******l 的大作中提到】
: 过年啦! 谈谈喜庆的?
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l*******l
发帖数: 13923
11
过年开心啊, 谢谢水王封号!:-D 送你一红包,MP一下。。。

【在 w*****r 的大作中提到】
: 马P精喜庆不喜庆?
L**********s
发帖数: 12988
12
我有个老师,对我影响非常大,第一次听他讲法时,他就要我们,一定先爱自己,
再爱家人。有人问,如何度众生?他答,你自己都还没度过去呢,如何度众生?
以后,慢慢体会到,先爱自己有多重要。别的不说,自己身体健康,才能更好地照顾家人。我生病了,还得
麻烦别人照顾,是不是?

【在 J******s 的大作中提到】
: 我觉得不能爱自己的人,基本上也无力爱别人的
: 哈

w*********r
发帖数: 2192
13
agree

家人。我生病了,还得麻烦

【在 L**********s 的大作中提到】
: 我有个老师,对我影响非常大,第一次听他讲法时,他就要我们,一定先爱自己,
: 再爱家人。有人问,如何度众生?他答,你自己都还没度过去呢,如何度众生?
: 以后,慢慢体会到,先爱自己有多重要。别的不说,自己身体健康,才能更好地照顾家人。我生病了,还得
: 麻烦别人照顾,是不是?

T*******y
发帖数: 6523
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en. That's true.
Without loving oneself unconditionally, one can't love others
unconditionally. The two aspects of love take the same kind of capacity, and
they take the same kind of practice to learn how to love.

家人。我生病了,还得麻烦别人照顾,是不是?

【在 L**********s 的大作中提到】
: 我有个老师,对我影响非常大,第一次听他讲法时,他就要我们,一定先爱自己,
: 再爱家人。有人问,如何度众生?他答,你自己都还没度过去呢,如何度众生?
: 以后,慢慢体会到,先爱自己有多重要。别的不说,自己身体健康,才能更好地照顾家人。我生病了,还得
: 麻烦别人照顾,是不是?

J******s
发帖数: 7538
15
en
16. Look After Your Body.
Love is quite powerful.
(ZZ)
'Love is not an on-off switch — it’s a lot more complicated. We all have
different levels of acceptance and love for ourselves (and others) at
different times. And, depending upon how comfortable you are with yourself
in general, you are more or less likely to be able to give love to and take
in love from someone else.
When you basically love and accept yourself, you don’t need the approval or
acceptance of someone else, though it always feels good to have. You feel
comfortable being by yourself, even as you continue to wish for a healthy
relationship.
You are also more likely to have faith that you will find someone who you
will love, and who will love you. As a result, a bad date or a rejection
from a romantic interest is not overwhelming. Unlike someone who fears being
alone or fears that ‘this’ is their last chance, you don’t need to
protect yourself from the possibility of such negative reactions. And if
there’s something about them that you don’t like, you can see that, too —
risking the possibility that you might not want to continue the
relationship. So, in the end, when you feel a connection, it is genuine.
However, when you are uncomfortable with and unaccepting of yourself, it is
difficult to believe that others can really love you. Feeling flawed, you
either distance yourself from others or do whatever you can to create a
connection. If you choose the latter, you often hide your real self and
present what you think others want. Sometimes your ability to see the other
person clearly also suffers; you overlook flaws and inflate positive traits.
And, you do it all for the reward of feeling loved. Needless to say, this
does not bode well for making an honest connection and building a healthy,
intimate relationship.
That said, even when you struggle with feeling less than loving toward
yourself, you can sometimes let yourself love and be loved. If you have some
doubt about your negative self-perceptions, you just might believe, or at
least consider, the goodness that someone else sees in you. You might also
see that someone else clearly enough to make some real connections.
Although this situation is less than ideal (it’s always best to love
yourself first), you might be open to being loved and to loving. With time,
you can face your insecurities and replace the fantasy version of your
partner that you first saw with the real-life version before you. And, along
the way, you can grow in your love for yourself and your partner.
The way I see it, life is all about growth. As individuals, we hopefully
become happier, improved versions of ourselves as we age. Similarly, couples
hopefully grow closer and happier as their relationship matures. Neither
you nor your relationship needs to start out fully formed and healthy, but
rather must be at least open enough to grow with experience.'

家人。我生病了,还得

【在 L**********s 的大作中提到】
: 我有个老师,对我影响非常大,第一次听他讲法时,他就要我们,一定先爱自己,
: 再爱家人。有人问,如何度众生?他答,你自己都还没度过去呢,如何度众生?
: 以后,慢慢体会到,先爱自己有多重要。别的不说,自己身体健康,才能更好地照顾家人。我生病了,还得
: 麻烦别人照顾,是不是?

J******s
发帖数: 7538
16
Nobody can make us to be happy persons, only ourselves.
Spiritual growth is a good way to realize loving ourselves, and it is
also the practice of Buddhism.
'Loving yourself is the best thing you can do not only for yourself,
but for the people around you too. When you truly love yourself,
and the love will flow out of you and spill onto other people in
your lives. Loving yourself truly results in loving others automatically.
Plus, the world treats you the way you treat
yourself. When you start loving yourself, the world starts
loving you. And life becomes a pleasant, love-filled journey
where you look forward to each day.'

家人。我生病了,还得

【在 L**********s 的大作中提到】
: 我有个老师,对我影响非常大,第一次听他讲法时,他就要我们,一定先爱自己,
: 再爱家人。有人问,如何度众生?他答,你自己都还没度过去呢,如何度众生?
: 以后,慢慢体会到,先爱自己有多重要。别的不说,自己身体健康,才能更好地照顾家人。我生病了,还得
: 麻烦别人照顾,是不是?

w*****r
发帖数: 7106
17
你那个童养X能make你a happy person么? L〇L。

【在 J******s 的大作中提到】
: Nobody can make us to be happy persons, only ourselves.
: Spiritual growth is a good way to realize loving ourselves, and it is
: also the practice of Buddhism.
: 'Loving yourself is the best thing you can do not only for yourself,
: but for the people around you too. When you truly love yourself,
: and the love will flow out of you and spill onto other people in
: your lives. Loving yourself truly results in loving others automatically.
: Plus, the world treats you the way you treat
: yourself. When you start loving yourself, the world starts
: loving you. And life becomes a pleasant, love-filled journey

J******s
发帖数: 7538
18
我要投诉你

【在 w*****r 的大作中提到】
: 你那个童养X能make你a happy person么? L〇L。
h******d
发帖数: 1891
19
无聊

【在 w*****r 的大作中提到】
: 你那个童养X能make你a happy person么? L〇L。
w*****r
发帖数: 7106
20
你肯定是一投诉一个准,有人开波菜没?
其实你直接当板斧亲自操刀岂不更省事?

【在 J******s 的大作中提到】
: 我要投诉你
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J******s
发帖数: 7538
21
我写诗招你惹你了?你无聊透顶

【在 w*****r 的大作中提到】
: 你肯定是一投诉一个准,有人开波菜没?
: 其实你直接当板斧亲自操刀岂不更省事?

l*******l
发帖数: 13923
22
嗯,有话说:管好自己就是对社会他人的负责

家人。我生病了,还得

【在 L**********s 的大作中提到】
: 我有个老师,对我影响非常大,第一次听他讲法时,他就要我们,一定先爱自己,
: 再爱家人。有人问,如何度众生?他答,你自己都还没度过去呢,如何度众生?
: 以后,慢慢体会到,先爱自己有多重要。别的不说,自己身体健康,才能更好地照顾家人。我生病了,还得
: 麻烦别人照顾,是不是?

w*****r
发帖数: 7106
23
算俺招你惹你,行不?
就许你惹别人,别人就招不得你么?
做人不能太小乘。
要说无聊,那个偷偷删贴的大师才无聊。
再手痒,当心我把他爪子剁了。

【在 J******s 的大作中提到】
: 我写诗招你惹你了?你无聊透顶
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