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33 reviews, avg. rating 4.73
Amazon.com: Teen-Proofing: A Revolutionary Approach to Fostering Responsible
Decision Making in Your Teenager:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001T4ZC7M
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Amazon.com Review
Parents can protect toddlers--with their maximum mobility and minimum logic-
-by pasting plastic on electrical outlets and putting poisons out of reach.
But protecting teenagers is not so simple, says family psychologist and
author of Raising a Nonviolent Child John Rosemond. "Short of solitary
confinement, you can't guarantee that a teen won't use drugs, shoplift,
drink or crash the car. In the final analysis, teens must protect themselves
." Rosemond's Teen-Proofing provides parents with tough-love strategies for
managing teens so they make self-protective, rather than self-destructive,
decisions.
Many parents will recognize the error of their ways in Rosemond's portraits
of parents as "micro-managers" who try to control their children and "wimps"
who let their children control them. He offers a compelling alternative by
urging parents to be "mentors, who realize they can control the parent-child
relationship, but not the child." The author explores critical parent-teen
issues including curfews, cash, cars, and cohorts--detailing an approach
that gives teenagers a "long rope" to make their own mistakes and also
offers "creative consequences" to encourage responsible decision making.
The author offers smart and seasoned advice--from coping with middle school
"tweenagers" to understanding why teens are vulnerable and how the culture
diminishes a parent's influence. Yet he undermines his clarity with snide
asides about mental health professionals and one too many smug and self-
congratulatory examples of his own parenting of a son and daughter. These
distractions are unnecessary; the book's unconventional and provocative
suggestions will speak volumes to parents of teens. --Barbara Mackoff
From Publishers Weekly
RosemondAsyndicated newspaper columnist, family psychologist and author of
numerous child-rearing titles (Because I Said So!)Awrites about the angst-
ridden teen years with a keen sense of humor. Rosemond's message that teens
need to be "mentored" rather than "micro-managed" by their parents is clear
and quite reasonable, but readers unfamiliar with his often unconventional
attitude may be put off when he turns his acerbic wit toward mental-health
professionals, including Selma Fraiberg, who he says promote "parentbabble."
The book clearly outlines what to expect of teens and how to deal with peer
groups; gives solid advice on how to set limits and communicate with
adolescents; and covers more troubling subjects such as drugs and depression
. The author slips too often into a q&a format that seems better suited to a
newspaper column, and offers only scant information on school problems and
how to approach the subject of college. Fortunately, Rosemond's main text is
peppered with entertaining anecdotes from his family and amusing tit-for-
tat tales of raising his own son and daughter. Rosemond followers will no
doubt be delighted to add this book on teens to their parenting libraries,
but newcomers may have to adjust to the author's unsentimental attitude
toward kids and may find his advice to let the teen "stew in his own juices"
just a bit tough to swallow. |
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