h*****s
发帖数: 821 | 1 批老公的马甲发个文，这位妹妹我很理解你的感受，我和你有很类似的经历。并不是什
么得不到的就是好的，试想如果你是对事业没所谓的人，也很难拿到博士学位，然后找
到tenur-track，一步步走到这里不是free-ride,一定也付出了很大的努力，即使有美
好的家庭，一定也很难释怀。我和你不同的是一直在企业界，但是领域、公司规模及事
业前景都和以前相差甚远，在及其不顺利的时候也打算辞掉这份鸡肋工作，但最终幸运
的转成了personal leave，现在正在努力找适合自己的位子. 对你的专业背景我不了解
，说几句，你看合适不合适。
一，宝宝小的时候是需要很多attention的，新的工作也一定要你多投入。你的父母能
不能来帮忙，如果没有，你能不能放心全部交给caregiver， 你老公是不是顾家.如果
答案都是肯定的，我觉得你可以不大考虑工作的忙碌程度，放开了去找。
二，想清楚将来到底career 要怎么走，是想教书，做professor (tenur-track),还是
转到企业界。我感觉教书对你来说有些委屈，tenur-track 对location 不能挑剔，毕
竟职位很少，为全家人在... 阅读全帖 |
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k*****t
发帖数: 186 | 2 A colleague of mine (male) divorced in California and got custody for his
two daughters while his wife made more than he did. He said he just provided
proof that he was the main caregiver to the children. Proving that it is he
who tucked the children in bed every night, driving them to school, taking
them to the doctors, etc.. |
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b***b
发帖数: 13249 | 3 关于老人的护理：
老人尤其是痴呆老人的护理需要专门的培训的， 不是你在大街上找个人或是付钱就可
以的，做这行的需要极大的耐心和爱心。 试想， 当自己的儿女都没法忍受你爸爸，
你难道可以指望别人吗？？
你家里还算好的， 有个可以 full-time照顾你爸爸的姐姐，你多接济，多给钱给姐姐
，让她更好地照顾你爸爸吧。 The best place for care is home and the best
caregiver is trained family member. |
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T*******7
发帖数: 636 | 4 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
Octopus0 (同时能做8件事...该多好) 于 (Sun Feb 12 09:53:20 2012, 美东) 提到:
Thank you all for the warm reply.
The photo is not my father, but he looks like the picture.
why would I post my father's real photo on here?
To avoid this thread going crazy, I would like to edit my post and stop this discussion.
Hope everyone gets what he wants, lives the way he wishes.
Again,
Thank you all for your kind contribution. it is Greatly appreciated.
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m***x
发帖数: 788 | 5 Impact of Domestic Violence on Children
https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/domestic_violence/impact.cfm
A growing body of literature shows that children who have been exposed to
domestic violence are more likely than their peers to experience a wide
range of difficulties. These difficulties fall into three main categories:
Behavioral, social, and emotional problems. Children in families
experiencing domestic violence are more likely than other children to
exhibit aggressive and ant... 阅读全帖 |
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n*n
发帖数: 229 | 6 http://www.boston.com/news/local/massachusetts/articles/2011/05
Mother of disabled child wins a $7 million settlement
Tests might have prompted her to choose abortion
By Travis Andersen
Globe Staff / May 6, 2011
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A superior court judge approved a $7 million settlement yesterday in a
lawsuit brought by a Shrewsbury woman against four medical professionals at
a Worcester hospital, whom she accused of failing to offer or explain tests
that could hav... 阅读全帖 |
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l****n
发帖数: 42 | 7 A superior court judge approved a $7 million settlement yesterday in a
lawsuit brought by a Shrewsbury woman against four medical professionals at
a Worcester hospital, whom she accused of failing to offer or explain tests
that could have prompted her to have an abortion rather than carry her now-
disabled child to term, her lawyer said yesterday.
An obstetrician at UMass Memorial Medical Center, a nurse practitioner, a
geneticist, and a genetic counselor did not tell Ran Zhuang, who is in her
e... 阅读全帖 |
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n****m
发帖数: 1283 | 8 (ZT)
A superior court judge approved a $7 million settlement yesterday in a
lawsuit brought by a Shrewsbury woman against four medical professionals at
a Worcester hospital, whom she accused of failing to offer or explain tests
that could have prompted her to have an abortion rather than carry her now-
disabled child to term, her lawyer said yesterday.
An obstetrician at UMass Memorial Medical Center, a nurse practitioner, a
geneticist, and a genetic counselor did not tell Ran Zhuang, who is in ... 阅读全帖 |
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g***x
发帖数: 1587 | 9 天朝的2B青年们对羊穿的狂热不亚于涮羊肉。他们虽然在异国生活多年，但对这个人文
环境没有丝毫的敏感。或许在他们头脑中，这里的堕胎服务如天朝一般快捷方便，遍布
大街小巷。他们提起羊穿洋溢着无限的自豪：高龄产妇提供羊穿是必须的！
他们忘记了美国社会很大程度上是个基督教国家。产前胎儿的筛检是一个颇有争议的话
题。即使是美国妇产医生协会这样一个专业组织，在其最新的产前筛检指导中（2007）
，对羊穿推荐也取消了年龄因素，而改为由前期的血检结果决定。这个指导有科学依据
，但也不好说受没受到外界的压力。
羊穿是一个不言而喻对胎儿有潜在危险的检测。且不说0.5-1%的流产率，这个检测的唯
一用处大概就是在胎儿被检测出潜在缺陷时终止妊娠。许多美国妈妈给八嫂写信往往表
达看似矛盾的观点。一方面她们表达对八嫂女儿的关心，表达出提供帮助的愿望；另一
方面她们委婉地表达不支持八嫂打官司，赢得大笔对孩子非常有用的赔偿。如果悉心美
国文化，这些是不难理解的。美国的基督教文化把胎儿视为上帝的礼物，不赞成任何条
件下的堕胎。羊穿这种检测是配合着堕胎保证优生的手段，也遭到这个文化的抵制的。
可以预见，八嫂的这个官司将迫... 阅读全帖 |
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b***b
发帖数: 13249 | 10 这个老头真恶心呀！
今天知道了，一家夫妇，男的是 dentist, 基本生活不能自理了，有三个孩子，都不在
身边伺候，在身边陪着的是他的高龄老伴，还有花钱请的 caregiver，负责白天的照顾
。
我突然发现，生多了孩子也没用的。孩子他们以后的日子也挺不容易的。 |
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b***b
发帖数: 13249 | 11 很容易证明姑妈是 primary caregiver 的。婚姻的共同财产，就是姑妈不照顾老头，
也能拿到的。
这帮孩子，真是没治了。
在美国，孩子没教好，真是造孽 |
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S*******s
发帖数: 10098 | 12 65之后什么也没了？ 需要long-term care怎么办？
去查查65之后at some point需要nurse/上门caregiver服务的概率多大。 |
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j*****3
发帖数: 40 | 13 hi everybody,
I am looking for a caregiver for old people or kids, my cell is 626 551 7727
.
thank you. |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 14 本人应聘全职保姆工作。最好住家。住在北圣地亚哥。我讲国语. 我有四年半照顾小孩
和老人的工作经验。如有意，请与我连系。760 - 529 - 6847
I'm looking for a live-in nanny/caregiver job. I live in north county San
Diego. I speak mandarin Chinese. I have four and half years experience in
taking care of new born and elderly. If you are interested in my
qualifications, please contact me at the phone number below.
760- 529 - 6847 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 15 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语. 有身份。我在美国有四年半照顾小孩和老人的工作
经验。如有意，
请与我连系。
760 - 529 - 6847
I'm looking for a full time live-in nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin
Chinese. I have four and half years experience in taking care of new born
and elderly in U.S. If you are interested in my qualifications, please
contact me at the phone number below.
760 - 529 - 6847 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 16 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语. 我有照顾小孩和老人的工作经验。如有意，请与我
连系。
760-529-6847
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese. I have
experience in taking care of new born and elderly. If you are interested in
my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number below.
760 - 529 - 6847 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 17 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语. 我有照顾小孩和老人的工作经验。如有意，请与我
连系。
760-529-6847
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese. I have
experience in taking care of new born and elderly. If you are interested in
my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number below.
760 - 529 - 6847 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 18 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语. 我有照顾小孩和老人的工作经验。如有意，请与我
连系。
760-547-4177
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese. I have
experience in taking care of new born and elderly. If you are interested
in
my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number below.
760 - 547-4177 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 19 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我
连系。
760-877-3531
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 877-3531 |
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v**********0
发帖数: 236 | 20 急征babysitter一名，要求有耐心，会说普通话，负责接送小孩上下学，辅导作业，照
顾简单起居。周一到周五11pm-7pm或2pm--7pm，
Looking for a reliable, responsible and energetic caregiver for 3 children,
ages 9, 8 and 4 who is a native Mandarin speaker. We have one full-time
helper already who helps provide care for the kids but we also need someone
to help with the after school rush of classes, playdates, dinner, homework
and, baths. Duties would include escorting the kids to their classes/
playdates, picking up from school, feeding/cleaning up... 阅读全帖 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 21 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。
760-547-4177
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 547-4177 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 22 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。
760-547-4177
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 547-4177 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 23 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。
760-445-9169
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 445-9169 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 24 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。
760-445-9169
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 445-9169 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 25 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。
760-445-9169
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 445-9169 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 26 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。
760-445-9169
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 445-9169 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 27 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。
760-445-9169
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 445-9169 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 28 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。
760-445-9169
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 445-9169 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 29 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。
760-445-9169
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 445-9169 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 30 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。我住在圣地亚哥（San Diego).
760-445-9169
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 445-9169 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 31 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如有意
，请与我连系。我住在圣地亚哥（San Diego).
760-445-9169
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have experience in taking care of elderly and new born. If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 445-9169 |
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N***y
发帖数: 22 | 32 本人应聘全职保姆工作。我讲国语，会教中文. 我有多年照顾老人和小孩工作经验。如
有意
，请与我连系。我住在圣地亚哥（San Diego).
760-547-4177
I'm looking for a nanny/caregiver job. I speak mandarin Chinese and teach
Chinese. I have years of experience in taking care of elderly and new born.
If you
are interested in my qualifications, please contact me at the phone number
below. 760 - 547-4177 |
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j****c
发帖数: 928 | 33 你经历过吗？除非现在政策该了。 我上次公司合并都不行的。Qualified expense =
receipts within employment period, you can claim it later, but expense has
to happen during employment time.
LZ can either cancel the FAS contribution(talk to HR) or somehow get
receipts or caregiver's signature to claim it.
is
your |
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e*******l
发帖数: 1269 | 34 Swimming Injury Statistics:
http://www.edgarsnyder.com/swimming-pool/swimming-pool-statisti
Drowning is the second leading cause of accidental injury-related death
among children ages 1 to 14.
Drowning is the leading cause of accidental injury-related death among
children ages 1 to 4.
Among children ages 1 to 4 years, most drownings occur in residential
swimming pools.
The most common place for a 1-4-year old child to drown is in a home
swimming pool.
In nearly 9 out of 10 child-drowning deaths,... 阅读全帖 |
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b*******t
发帖数: 158 | 35 准备把原来的公寓出租出去，要价1500一个月。现在有两对couple看房后想租，想请教
一下谁会更靠谱一点：
couple 1，都是27、28岁，一个9个月大女儿。女的工作，提供了去年8月开始的
employment offer letter，年薪4w。没有信用卡，信用分只有540。男的disable，看
上去只是有点瘸腿，不用坐轮椅什么的。全天在家，每个月有1300的social security
收入。搬家是因为现在住的地方不满意，560sqft的房子说每个月要1000月租，不保暖
，所以还要出400+取暖费。因为要给现任房东30天notice，所以要3月15才能入住。
couple 2，都是90后，一个6个月大女儿。男的做electrician，时薪16刀，还没看到他
的W2或是employment offer letter。女的在她妈开的daycare做caregiver，时薪12刀
。他们一直住在男方父母家里，搬家原因是想离开父母自己生活。他们可以下周就入住
。他们还找了个中介。中介说她是女的的邻居，可以做她的reference。
这俩couple说实话都不能让我觉得满意。如... 阅读全帖 |
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M*********s
发帖数: 1086 | 36 No, Not even 延缓发病.
Expect death in 5-10 years, and a very hard life for the caregivers. |
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l*h
发帖数: 4124 | 37 no, you cannot once you leave the pharmacy counter. this is governed by
state laws.
if you read the actual laws, they (in most states) usually don't state you
cannot return prescription medicines. but rather, they state that the unit
dose must be maintained by the licensed facility before reaching the patient
. that is why in hospitals, medicines dispensed by the hospital pharmacy may
be taken back to be re-dispensed to other patients if the unit dose is
under the control of licensed caregivers ... 阅读全帖 |
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S******o
发帖数: 220 | 38 “他可真能睡啊”， 两种可能：
1， 新环境，分散注意力的事情多， 到下午孩子太累， 所以睡得多。
2， 下午睡前哭得多，哭累了睡得也多。
Did you ask the caregiver whether he cried or not after you left? Did you
also ask her your son's first day schedule?
OZ |
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l****i
发帖数: 1758 | 39 他上午也小睡了两觉，分别是２０分钟和半个小时。 (不过昨天很奇怪，他自己早上６
点就醒了就一直没睡，好象知道有特别一样, 然后我LG一直陪他玩到早上８点多我起床
。平时他都要睡到８点。也许是这样再加上新环境，看的累了）
我倒是没问有没有大哭， 不过caregiver说he is fine，只说了没好好吃。
我去看了好几次DAYCARE，每次都没看到小孩大哭的， 稍微有点哭就会被抱起来，放这
里玩或者放那里玩，或者就抱着到处走。说实话， 我超级佩服那些老师。 |
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b*****z
发帖数: 942 | 40 你想要宝宝的把握几乎是十有八九，即使你没有一分钱也没有关系，你只要向法官证明
你是宝宝的primary caregiver，比如照顾他的饮食起居，比如还在喂奶，倒是你老公
，还要付spouse support, child support |
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g*********9
发帖数: 3528 | 41 will he get shots? how if the nurse has Hep B and needle stick to her finger?
will he get bite? Do you check other kid's hep B?
Do you check grandparents? all the caregivers? |
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f**l
发帖数: 433 | 42 很正常啊， 孩子到了新环境压力大，缺乏安全感。15个月的孩子基本prefer mother
than any other caregiver, 所以要你啊。
我娃5个月上的幼儿园， 很喜欢上学。1岁升班的时候，因为年纪最小，跑不稳，第一
周连续4天在教室和院子里摔伤头和脸，还让大孩子把脸抓出血， 五颜六色简直惨不忍
睹。而且一开始不会坐普通的椅子吃饭， 没吃几口就摔到地上，不会用开口杯喝水，
总是弄得湿淋淋。总之压力很大， 老想着爬回隔壁的婴儿班， 那里娃少屋子大，老师
宠（他敲开过婴儿班的门，恩师放他进去吃了一次奶，换了片片，又给哄回去了，呵呵
，真没出息）。 第一个月一看到我来接就大哭着跑过来， 升班之前每天都是哈哈大笑
着爬/走过来的。一个月之后适应了就又哈哈大笑了。
现在爸爸出差2个礼拜，娃的常规被打乱，也变得敏感，粘人。 我到门外收包裹他都以
为我不要他了，紧张得大哭起来。我一回来就好了。
我娃19个月。这个时期娃很敏感，你娃的分离焦虑还在高峰期，但是慢慢就好了。 如
果孩子不是受了伤什么的，我觉得不用担心。多用点时间问问老师孩子适应得怎么样，
帮助孩子尽快适应。 |
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发帖数: 2207 | 43 这么大的娃儿正是认生，separation anxiety严重的时候。书上的说法都是6-9个月期
间要保证primary caregiver 一直是固定的一个人。做妈妈的只能想办法多陪陪他了。 |
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发帖数: 960 | 44 刚刚收到，看似可以永久享受30% OFF了。不过是select diapers。希望不要给太烂的
diaper。
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发帖数: 2682 | 46 能导致创伤性后果甚至死亡的shake是指父母或caregiver在情绪失控的情况下暴力
shake baby，导致baby的大脑和颈椎受到严重创伤。所以楼主提到的父亲和护士的行为
是正常的摇晃，跟shaken baby syndrome不是一回事。所以关键词在于，“情绪失控”
，人在正常情绪下是不可能那样暴力shake baby的，楼主不用担心，倒是可以多学学新
爸妈如何控制情绪，遇到孩子哭闹如何处理。 |
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发帖数: 7895 | 47 其实这本书应该这么说，好父母胜过好老师。如果爸爸扮演了很重要的
CAREGIVING的角色，好爸爸也是很重要的。。。。
PEER的影响要比老师的影响要大，但和父母的影响是同等重要，虽然影响
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发帖数: 7895 | 48 好像是没有这方面的书说，不过我曾经选过一门关于父亲作为CAREGIVER的课，
大概意思就是说，让爸爸不断的参与各种带小孩，教育小孩的过程是一个父亲
能够明白自己具有父爱很重要的一条。不过，那堂课也没有说到具体教育方法，
和内容。
另外，我觉的父母教育小孩的方向上还是需要一致的，如果父母的
教育方法不一致，对小孩影响可能会很坏。这样的话，还不如一个人教育。。。 |
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发帖数: 536 | 49 感觉最主要是给他足够的各种交流刺激，但是也需要安静的时间，看了几本书，我感觉
都是大同小异。
规律的作息，关爱，和人交流，玩游戏，自己安静得玩，什么也不干，看看风景...
感觉都提到父母或是其他caregiver关爱最重要，都提到大脑在发育都过程当中，一旦
长成了，就是物理性得固定了。如果小人得基本要求没有得到满足，或是收到创伤，就
是永久性的。康复很困难。 |
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发帖数: 103 | 50 嗯嗯 俺家的宝宝以前一直自己睡crib的 最近家里换caregiver 小孩儿没有安全感，半
夜总会哭醒，于是换到了大床co-sleep。
过程其实还好，放在大床，关了灯，拍一拍，五分钟之后马上能睡着，半夜会醒个几次
，不过每次都是拍拍就继续睡过去。 不过就是这个“拍拍”的过程，宝宝必须拽着妈
妈的头发。。。。。。
好疼啊！！！ 有时候还把手指伸到头皮处，狠狠的拉，我都忍不住想把长发剪短了。
有没有也有此嗜好的宝宝啊？有没有什么解决办法啊？ 真的不想cry out.... 宝宝九
个月了，貌似懂事了很多，而且家里有老人，肯定不同意cry out 了
谢谢大家 |
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