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Learn How to Be Happy with Yourself
By Elizabeth R. Lombardo, Ph.D., M.S., P.T
My grandmother was an amazing piano player. In fact she was so good that,
despite only have a few university credits, she taught piano at the college
level. One of the courses she instructed was entitled “How to play the
piano DESPITE years of practice.”
Grandma used to talk about the bad habits people had picked up- either on
their own or from poor instructors. She would spend hours teaching her
students the proper techniques to create beautiful music by unlearning what
they were already doing. This concept is important not only in playing the
piano but also to being happy.
Looking for Happiness in all the Wrong Places:
As a society we tend to look for happiness in all the wrong places:
overeating, excessive drinking, using drugs, “shopping therapy”… We think
these acts will bring more joy into our lives. And while they may offer a
brief high, disappointment, despair, distress and even depression often take
over.
Why do we do this? Sadly, this country is suffering from an undiagnosed
epidemic that I have named “If Only” Syndrome. Here are some examples:
“If Only I was thinner, then I would be happy.”
“If Only I had more money, then I would be happy.”
“If Only my kids would put their stuff away, then I would be happy.”
“If Only my ex wasn’t so difficult, then I would be happy.”
And yet “If Only” syndrome causes us to be even more miserable.
Take, for example, the thought “If only I win the lottery, then I would be
happy.” Did you know that the average lottery winner is not any happier
than anyone else? Even those who win hundreds of millions of dollars. Sure,
they may experience more exhilaration initially. But after about 6 months,
research shows they return to their original level of happiness. Sadly, many
even become more UNhappy because of the stress of suddenly having so much
money.
We fall victim to “If Only” syndrome and look for happiness in all the
wrong places, not because we are stupid. Rather, it is because we have not
learned the proper skills to being happier. Just like one of my grandmother
’s students who practiced the piano for years without reaping the benefits,
we keep trying to be happier but are not always successful.
So, let’s vaccinate ourselves form “If Only” syndrome and become happier
moms.
In order to do that, we need to start by developing some new skills. In
effect, we need to take the course “How to be happier DESPITE years of
practice.”
Happiness is a skill. Just like playing an instrument or sport. And if you
practice the right skills, you can improve. Isn’t that promising?
Even better, you can be happier REGARDLESS of what is going on in your life.
You need not wait for your financial situation, relationship or children to
improve. You can become a happier you right now.
“How is that possible?” You might be asking.
To be happy, just be GREAT. That is an acronym for:
G = Gratitude
R = Relaxation
E = Exercise
A = Assist others
T = Take care of yourself
Gratitude: Be grateful for what you have rather than discontent about what
you lack. Every day write down at least three things you feel grateful for,
that you appreciate. Maybe it is a sunny day, your child putting his shoes
away, a good cup of coffee, or a call from a friend. It doesn’t need to be
huge, just something positive.
Relaxation: Stress can be the nemesis of happiness. And we all know how
stressful being a single mom can be. So make sure you take time out to take
some deep breathes, meditate or listen to relaxing music. You don’t need to
carve out an hour of time (although that would be great). You can do
diaphragmatic breathing in the car while taking your children to soccer
practice or even while you are in the bathroom.
Exercise: Research show exercise reduces depression and stress, enhances
your mood, improves your self-confidence and even helps you sleep better. So
, get your body moving today. You can even do this with your children-
bounce with them on a trampoline, ride bikes, take the stairs instead of the
elevator.
Assist Others: Helping out others will increase your own happiness. Look for
opportunities to help out others- and include your children. It could be
opening the door for someone, inviting a lonely neighbor over for a meal,
collecting change to donate to a worthy cause.
Take Care of Yourself: Make sure you get the nutrition, sleep and fun that
you need to be happier and healthier. I realize many of you might be
thinking “Is she crazy? When do I have time for that?!” But hear me out-
it is vital to your psychological and physical health. The average American
watches 5 hours of TV each day. Imagine if you took just one of those hours
to focus on you. Give yourself and your children set bedtimes that you stick
to. Choose healthy choices for meals for yourself and your children. Swap
babysitting with a friend so you can take that craft class you are
interested in. Use the same creativity you applied when your toddler was
crying to find time for yourself.
A happier you will not only experience more sustained joy but you will also
benefit in so many other areas of your life. People who are happier tend to
also enjoy better relationships, improved health, less stress, higher levels
of energy, more self-esteem, a greater sense of purpose and a longer, more
prosperous life. And being happier makes you a better mother and makes it
more likely that your children will be happier and healthier, too.
So how about it? Be GREAT and become an even happier you! | b**********0
发帖数: 1447 | 2 if only i get butt fucked...
college
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【在 t*******y 的大作中提到】
: http://singlemindedwomen.com/womens-health/learn-how-to-be-happ
: Learn How to Be Happy with Yourself
: By Elizabeth R. Lombardo, Ph.D., M.S., P.T
: My grandmother was an amazing piano player. In fact she was so good that,
: despite only have a few university credits, she taught piano at the college
: level. One of the courses she instructed was entitled “How to play the
: piano DESPITE years of practice.”
: Grandma used to talk about the bad habits people had picked up- either on
: their own or from poor instructors. She would spend hours teaching her
: students the proper techniques to create beautiful music by unlearning what
| y*e
发帖数: 9799 | 3 come on, this shouldn't be hard
【在 b**********0 的大作中提到】
: if only i get butt fucked...
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: college
: what
| t*******y
发帖数: 11968 | 4
I'd butt fuck you
【在 b**********0 的大作中提到】
: if only i get butt fucked...
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: college
: what
| y*e
发帖数: 9799 | 5 well, you can make her happy, and by assisting her, you'd feel accomplished
and be happy yourself :) happiness is all around ^_^
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: I'd butt fuck you
| m******g
发帖数: 3253 | 6 “If only I win the lottery, then I would be
happy.” Did you know that the average lottery winner is not any happier
than anyone else?
这话我觉得听起来..是给没有得奖的那些人的安慰.. | y*e
发帖数: 9799 | 7 还有，做人不能太偏心，您不能只帮助她，I'd be happy with true love, would you
please be so kind and help find me one as well?
【在 t*******y 的大作中提到】
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: I'd butt fuck you
| t*******y
发帖数: 11968 | 8
you
true love是骗人的, butt fuck还有几分真实
【在 y*e 的大作中提到】
: 还有，做人不能太偏心，您不能只帮助她，I'd be happy with true love, would you
: please be so kind and help find me one as well?
| Y*****2
发帖数: 38613 | 9 re
【在 t*******y 的大作中提到】
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: you
: true love是骗人的, butt fuck还有几分真实
| m******g
发帖数: 3253 | 10 我相信爱情...而且我更爱你
我希望你爱的是我..而不是爱情 | | | m******g
发帖数: 3253 | 11 re
【在 m******g 的大作中提到】
: 我相信爱情...而且我更爱你
: 我希望你爱的是我..而不是爱情
| b**********0
发帖数: 1447 | 12 man, biggu must be a very happy man with a 3 input girlfriend
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| y*e
发帖数: 9799 | 13 我对您无限崇拜，您能自己跟自己谈恋爱～～这是一种什么样的境界啊～～～～～～
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| m******g
发帖数: 3253 | 14 有这么明显吗??
这都看出来了你
【在 y*e 的大作中提到】
: 我对您无限崇拜，您能自己跟自己谈恋爱～～这是一种什么样的境界啊～～～～～～
| m******g
发帖数: 3253 | 15 有这么明显吗??
这都看出来了你
【在 y*e 的大作中提到】
: 我对您无限崇拜，您能自己跟自己谈恋爱～～这是一种什么样的境界啊～～～～～～
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