a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 1 【 以下文字转载自 NextGeneration 讨论区 】
发信人: Msmall (Msmall), 信区: NextGeneration
标 题: 人活着不如死掉！还生什么孩子！
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Tue Sep 20 22:50:28 2011, 美东)
有时候，禁不住想：人活着到为了啥？ 总有一天会死的，累死累活的挣钱到底是干啥？
由此我想到一个命题： 假如我只有五天可活，这五天我究竟会干些什么？
奇怪的是，当这个问题一出，要干的事情也马上在脑海中列出。总结了一下，无非是去
跟自己最爱的人一起度过这五天。最爱的人其实无非是父母，老婆孩子...
可能不同的人对此问题有不同的答案,可能有人的答案是在这五天去杀掉自己最恨的几
个人(可能还包括自己的家人).但是我可以肯定,90%以上人的想法会和我想的一致.
这样一来,我一下抓住了生活和生命的内涵和意义: 那就是爱. 其实人这一辈子,从一生
下来, 就被父母家人所爱,父母家人爱孩子的同时,其实也是在向孩子展示如何去爱别人
. 所以,人一生下来,其实就开始学习如何去爱,去爱家人,去爱生活,去爱这个世界. 如
果一个人内心深处
爱远远多于恨,说明他的人生是成功的,他个人也是幸福的,如果一个人内心深处恨愁多
于爱和快乐,说明他的人生是失败的,他个人也是不幸福的.
我们一辈子不管干啥,其实都是以各种不同的方式学习如何去爱这个世界. 前一阵子看
到一个中国的老婆把的她老公给杀了. 说明她内心的恨有多深. 同时反过来也说明这个
家庭中LG, LP都不知道如何去爱,或者从来就不想着去爱. 最后在家里堆满了仇恨,只可
怜了他们的孩子,孩子在这种环境中长大,不知长大后怎么去爱这个世界...
由此我也很担心中国的教育, 这样的事情在华人中经常发生, 其实也说明我们中国教育
的忧患. 中国的教育让大家比,比谁分数高,比谁聪明. 长大后就比谁富,比谁有权,比谁
得老爸厉害...这种"比"教育中"比"出的所谓优秀人才其实内心深处都有一种把别人往
下踩,往死里踩得心理, 怎么会学会去 爱别人,去爱这个世界呢?
生活的意义在于不断学习如何去爱,生活本身也就是去爱. 看看自己的父母家人孩子,你
难道不同意我的观点吗?
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其实很多人都为这个问题疑惑，但是只是落入世俗没有认真想这个问题。所以到死也不明白人为啥活着，搞得一生疲惫不堪。 也有人因次信了各种教，心灵得到自欺的安慰。小学时候有一天猛的想到这个问题，苦思冥想了很多年，最终终于想通了。如果你想通了，也没有信教，那你一生风也好，雨也好，都会活得很开心，很幸福！ | s*******7
发帖数: 2880 | 2 "生活的意义在于不断学习如何去爱,生活本身也就是去爱."
it is love that makes the impossible possible
至于生不生孩子，personal choice
虽然古人云，不孝有三，无后为大 | g*******a
发帖数: 31586 | 3
你嫁我 我们生吧
【在 s*******7 的大作中提到】
: "生活的意义在于不断学习如何去爱,生活本身也就是去爱."
: it is love that makes the impossible possible
: 至于生不生孩子，personal choice
: 虽然古人云，不孝有三，无后为大
| V*****8
发帖数: 33122 | | a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 5 厉害
Love is invisible connection between you and the people around you.
Different people deserved different love. Such as parents' love to their
children is different from the love between couples. To love is to connect.
The more secure the connections, the person has a more meaningful life.
【在 s*******7 的大作中提到】
: "生活的意义在于不断学习如何去爱,生活本身也就是去爱."
: it is love that makes the impossible possible
: 至于生不生孩子，personal choice
: 虽然古人云，不孝有三，无后为大
| a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 6 文里还是有点东西的。。题目受了刺激。
【在 V*****8 的大作中提到】
: 文不对题
| s*******7
发帖数: 2880 | 7 generally, parent's love to children is UNCONDITIONAL
while the love between couples is usually conditional,
though couples vow : 'for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in
sickness and in health, until death do us part' during the wedding ceremony
for this article, more secure the connections, the person has a more
meaningful life.
in fact, different person has different definition of meaningful life.
.
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: 厉害
: Love is invisible connection between you and the people around you.
: Different people deserved different love. Such as parents' love to their
: children is different from the love between couples. To love is to connect.
: The more secure the connections, the person has a more meaningful life.
| Z*****l
发帖数: 14069 | 8 麻小是老刑马甲之一。
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: 文里还是有点东西的。。题目受了刺激。
| a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 9 "for better, for richer, for poor...." This love between couples is on the
bright side. Couples' love needs compromise, sacrifice, giving up, and calm
communication. Couples break up/get devorce always provide reasons such as
they don't fit. But what exactly what doesn't fit, It's hard to explain,
because they don't want to compromise on their own rather than complaining.
different people have different definition of meaningful life, that's true,
but it's also too broad. Life itself doesn't have any meaning, but how to
search and fulfill a meaningful life while alive largely depends on the
person's background. A new born baby is like a white paper, with nothing
inside his mind. People who first draw on the paper are their parents. A
person's character can be more or less a reflection of his parents. I think
I believe this.
ceremony
【在 s*******7 的大作中提到】
: generally, parent's love to children is UNCONDITIONAL
: while the love between couples is usually conditional,
: though couples vow : 'for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in
: sickness and in health, until death do us part' during the wedding ceremony
: for this article, more secure the connections, the person has a more
: meaningful life.
: in fact, different person has different definition of meaningful life.
:
: .
| s*******7
发帖数: 2880 | 10 to some extent, couples' love condition on the similar VALUES, similar
interests, or even similar lifestyles. 'the social animal' has several
sentences describing those similarities. with those similarities, we do need
to respect/treasure his/her difference,求同存异, and think of what I would
do if in his/her shoes etc.
父母的言传身教和周遭对小孩的价值观的形成，习惯和性格的塑造是很大的，
小孩看到的一切或多或少会成为潜意识的model，以后就会模仿这些model来应对类似的
情况
thoughts->action->habit->character->destiny
每一环都很重要
Couples' love needs compromise, sacrifice, giving up, and calm
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: "for better, for richer, for poor...." This love between couples is on the
: bright side. Couples' love needs compromise, sacrifice, giving up, and calm
: communication. Couples break up/get devorce always provide reasons such as
: they don't fit. But what exactly what doesn't fit, It's hard to explain,
: because they don't want to compromise on their own rather than complaining.
: different people have different definition of meaningful life, that's true,
: but it's also too broad. Life itself doesn't have any meaning, but how to
: search and fulfill a meaningful life while alive largely depends on the
: person's background. A new born baby is like a white paper, with nothing
: inside his mind. People who first draw on the paper are their parents. A
| | | b*****8
发帖数: 1060 | 11 哈哈，
有来了一个笑话，
其实很多人都为这个问题疑惑，但是只是落入世俗没有认真想这个问题。所以到死也不
明白人为啥活着，搞得一生疲惫不堪。 也有人因次信了各种教，心灵得到自欺的安慰
。小学时候有一天猛的想到这个问题，苦思冥想了很多年，最终终于想通了。如果你想
通了，也没有信教，那你一生风也好，雨也好，都会活得很开心，很幸福！
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: "for better, for richer, for poor...." This love between couples is on the
: bright side. Couples' love needs compromise, sacrifice, giving up, and calm
: communication. Couples break up/get devorce always provide reasons such as
: they don't fit. But what exactly what doesn't fit, It's hard to explain,
: because they don't want to compromise on their own rather than complaining.
: different people have different definition of meaningful life, that's true,
: but it's also too broad. Life itself doesn't have any meaning, but how to
: search and fulfill a meaningful life while alive largely depends on the
: person's background. A new born baby is like a white paper, with nothing
: inside his mind. People who first draw on the paper are their parents. A
| a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 12 一头雾水。。。没说过。。LOL。。
笑点呢？
【在 b*****8 的大作中提到】
: 哈哈，
: 有来了一个笑话，
:
: 其实很多人都为这个问题疑惑，但是只是落入世俗没有认真想这个问题。所以到死也不
: 明白人为啥活着，搞得一生疲惫不堪。 也有人因次信了各种教，心灵得到自欺的安慰
: 。小学时候有一天猛的想到这个问题，苦思冥想了很多年，最终终于想通了。如果你想
: 通了，也没有信教，那你一生风也好，雨也好，都会活得很开心，很幸福！
| a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 13 “think of what I would do if in his/her shoes etc. ”
Agree with this. It's all relative, not absolute. People usually say: 看透了
， it's presumably some kind of story behind about her.
好的只有坏的当尺子才能知道好的是好。全部都是好的就也不是好的了。
need
would
【在 s*******7 的大作中提到】
: to some extent, couples' love condition on the similar VALUES, similar
: interests, or even similar lifestyles. 'the social animal' has several
: sentences describing those similarities. with those similarities, we do need
: to respect/treasure his/her difference,求同存异, and think of what I would
: do if in his/her shoes etc.
: 父母的言传身教和周遭对小孩的价值观的形成，习惯和性格的塑造是很大的，
: 小孩看到的一切或多或少会成为潜意识的model，以后就会模仿这些model来应对类似的
: 情况
: thoughts->action->habit->character->destiny
: 每一环都很重要
| s*******7
发帖数: 2880 | 14 好的坏的，是相对的，而且很大程度上取决于各自的立场和利益
虽然common sense的善恶还是有标准的
包容一点，会豁达一些
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: “think of what I would do if in his/her shoes etc. ”
: Agree with this. It's all relative, not absolute. People usually say: 看透了
: ， it's presumably some kind of story behind about her.
: 好的只有坏的当尺子才能知道好的是好。全部都是好的就也不是好的了。
:
: need
: would
| a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 15 If people think of these when they are in anger, things would be much better.
There was some kind of experiment. If two people face to face are arguing
with each other, but they remain sitting on the chairs, (not standing up).
The argument will be very less likely rise to the next level. It's very
interesting..
【在 s*******7 的大作中提到】
: 好的坏的，是相对的，而且很大程度上取决于各自的立场和利益
: 虽然common sense的善恶还是有标准的
: 包容一点，会豁达一些
| s*******7
发帖数: 2880 | 16 那就是2个人还没火起来，相对心平气和的communicate，要么修养/EQ不错，要么还没
冲突起来
i would prefer the word 'communicate' to 'argue'.
Dale Carnegie said 'The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid
it'
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: If people think of these when they are in anger, things would be much better.
: There was some kind of experiment. If two people face to face are arguing
: with each other, but they remain sitting on the chairs, (not standing up).
: The argument will be very less likely rise to the next level. It's very
: interesting..
| m*******g
发帖数: 7050 | 17 同意这个观点，但是很多人不知道怎么爱
很多中国家长爱的方式本身就是错误的
还有情侣，夫妻。。。
啥？
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: If people think of these when they are in anger, things would be much better.
: There was some kind of experiment. If two people face to face are arguing
: with each other, but they remain sitting on the chairs, (not standing up).
: The argument will be very less likely rise to the next level. It's very
: interesting..
| g*******a
发帖数: 31586 | 18
我觉得我们的方式有可能是对的
【在 m*******g 的大作中提到】
: 同意这个观点，但是很多人不知道怎么爱
: 很多中国家长爱的方式本身就是错误的
: 还有情侣，夫妻。。。
:
: 啥？
| m****s
发帖数: 8992 | 19 my favoriate movies:
Austin Powers 1,
Austin Powers 2,
Austin Powers 3,
You don't mess with the Zohan | a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 20 haha....
Dr. Evil..
【在 m****s 的大作中提到】
: my favoriate movies:
: Austin Powers 1,
: Austin Powers 2,
: Austin Powers 3,
: You don't mess with the Zohan
| | | c*****l
发帖数: 5203 | 21 how about zolander?
【在 m****s 的大作中提到】
: my favoriate movies:
: Austin Powers 1,
: Austin Powers 2,
: Austin Powers 3,
: You don't mess with the Zohan
| m*******g
发帖数: 7050 | 22 你发张照片来看看，或许我会承认你是对的
【在 g*******a 的大作中提到】
:
: 我觉得我们的方式有可能是对的
| g*******a
发帖数: 31586 | 23
你的邮箱
【在 m*******g 的大作中提到】
: 你发张照片来看看，或许我会承认你是对的
| m*******g
发帖数: 7050 | 24 c***********[email protected]
【在 g*******a 的大作中提到】
:
: 你的邮箱
| m****s
发帖数: 8992 | 25 没看过
【在 c*****l 的大作中提到】
: how about zolander?
| c*****l
发帖数: 5203 | 26 gosh！ that s the best. you have to watch it!
【在 m****s 的大作中提到】
: 没看过
| m****s
发帖数: 8992 | 27 hao
【在 c*****l 的大作中提到】
: gosh！ that s the best. you have to watch it!
| g*******a
发帖数: 31586 | 28
发了
【在 m*******g 的大作中提到】
: c***********[email protected]
| m****s
发帖数: 8992 | 29 请客！
【在 g*******a 的大作中提到】
:
: 发了
| l*****z
发帖数: 13617 | 30 生了孩子，你会懂得有一种爱是无可替代的，是永恒的，也会由此懂得父母对你的爱而
感恩。。
我感谢上帝给了我一个天使，虽然这个憨憨的天使有时候也真是让人烦！呵呵 | | | a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 31 "Impossible" .... remind me about this song...hehe...a good song too.
I remember years ago
Someone told me I should take
Caution when it comes to love
I did, I did-------
And you were strong and I was not
My illusion, my mistake
I was careless, I forgot
I did
And now when all is done
There is nothing to say
You have gone and so effortlessly
You have won
You can go ahead tell them
Tell them all I know now
Shout it from the roof tops
Write it on the sky line
All we had is gone now
Tell them I was happy
And my heart is broken
All my scars are open
Tell them what I hoped would be
Impossible, impossible
Impossible, impossible
Falling out of love is hard
Falling for betrayal is worst
Broken trust and broken hearts
I know, I know--------
Thinking all you need is there
Building faith on love and words
Empty promises will wear
I know, I know--------
And now when all is gone
There is nothing to say
And if you're done with embarrassing me
On your own you can go ahead tell them
Tell them all I know now
Shout it from the roof tops
Write it on the sky line
All we had is gone now
Tell them I was happy
And my heart is broken
All my scars are open
Tell them what I hoped would be
Impossible, impossible
Impossible, impossible
Impossible, impossible
Impossible, impossible!
Ooh impossible (yeah yeah)
I remember years ago
Someone told me I should take
Caution when it comes to love
I did
Tell them all I know now
Shout it from the roof tops
Write it on the sky line
All we had is gone now
Tell them I was happy
And my heart is broken
All my scars are open
Tell them what I hoped would be
Impossible, impossible
Impossible, impossible
Impossible, impossible
Impossible, impossible
I remember years ago
Someone told me I should take
Caution when it comes to love
I did..........
【在 s*******7 的大作中提到】
: "生活的意义在于不断学习如何去爱,生活本身也就是去爱."
: it is love that makes the impossible possible
: 至于生不生孩子，personal choice
: 虽然古人云，不孝有三，无后为大
| a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 32 这也是活着的意义。。。是你和你老公给你的天使，不是上帝。。
【在 l*****z 的大作中提到】
: 生了孩子，你会懂得有一种爱是无可替代的，是永恒的，也会由此懂得父母对你的爱而
: 感恩。。
: 我感谢上帝给了我一个天使，虽然这个憨憨的天使有时候也真是让人烦！呵呵
| m*******g
发帖数: 7050 | 33 不错
【在 g*******a 的大作中提到】
:
: 发了
| V*****8
发帖数: 33122 | 34 zoolander?
超搞笑的
【在 c*****l 的大作中提到】
: how about zolander?
| m****s
发帖数: 8992 | 35 can't top Austin Powers
【在 V*****8 的大作中提到】
: zoolander?
: 超搞笑的
| l*****z
发帖数: 13617 | 36 哦，感谢我和我老公给了我一个天使！
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: 这也是活着的意义。。。是你和你老公给你的天使，不是上帝。。
| a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 37 话说上帝
以前有个女人,黑的
动不动喜欢跑过来说话
一次不知道说什么的提到上帝
我说我不信的
她很惊讶的样子
她问,你有问题或伤心的时候
心灵上找什么依靠
楞了一下,
忘了答什么.应该是靠自己或什么
【在 l*****z 的大作中提到】
: 哦，感谢我和我老公给了我一个天使！
| m*******g
发帖数: 7050 | 38 共产党。。。
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: 话说上帝
: 以前有个女人,黑的
: 动不动喜欢跑过来说话
: 一次不知道说什么的提到上帝
: 我说我不信的
: 她很惊讶的样子
: 她问,你有问题或伤心的时候
: 心灵上找什么依靠
: 楞了一下,
: 忘了答什么.应该是靠自己或什么
| a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 39 “不管你信不信，反正我信了！”
【在 m*******g 的大作中提到】
: 共产党。。。
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