y**1
发帖数: 1037 | 1 【 以下文字转载自 NextGeneration 讨论区 】
发信人: ybm1 (妈妈的好宝宝,快乐健康成长), 信区: NextGeneration
标 题: a Nanny who cannot put baby to sleep
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Oct 15 11:53:35 2010, 美东)
sorry I dont have Chinese input at work, had to use English.
our current nanny who is a nice person but without basic nanny
qualification. she keeps saying my baby refused to sleep in the daytime and
in the middle of the night. so since she could not put him to sleep, she
played with him for 2 hours every night, after he wake up in the middle of
night. Why she is getting him such bad habit to play in the light in the
middle of the night?
She doesnot try to find what is wrong with her caring skill. she blames
my baby is not a good baby. but for me, I know there is a saying" there is
no bad dogs, only bad owners." I want to say " there is no bad baby, only
bad nanny."
I am just getting so frustrated. why in America, those so-called "
Nannies" have the gutt to come to people's house to make money as a Nanny,
in fact those people even dont have the basic skills to care for a baby?
what should I do? where to find at least qualified nanny?? plesae help
give me some advice. thanks |
n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 2 get another nanny. A nice person with no nanny qualification is friend/
sitter material, do not use as nanny |
t******l
发帖数: 2135 | 3 说实话我觉得肯夜里起来陪玩两小时的nanny很伟大了。当妈的也未必有这耐心呢。
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: get another nanny. A nice person with no nanny qualification is friend/
: sitter material, do not use as nanny
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l*****r
发帖数: 7130 | 4 有必要跟一个nanny争这种事情吗？你不满意换一个就完了，又不婆婆，终身制的。 |
n***y
发帖数: 7036 | 5 我也觉得这个nanny至少对孩子很好。。。
【在 t******l 的大作中提到】
: 说实话我觉得肯夜里起来陪玩两小时的nanny很伟大了。当妈的也未必有这耐心呢。
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n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 6 ah well, nice to the baby is not exactly the same as good for the baby.
【在 n***y 的大作中提到】
: 我也觉得这个nanny至少对孩子很好。。。
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n***y
发帖数: 7036 | 7 呵呵，（外）祖父母带一样有这个问题，可是大多数人还是prefer老人来带阿。
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: ah well, nice to the baby is not exactly the same as good for the baby.
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n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 8 grand parents are family, quite different from a nanny.
【在 n***y 的大作中提到】
: 呵呵，（外）祖父母带一样有这个问题，可是大多数人还是prefer老人来带阿。
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y**1
发帖数: 1037 | 9 I cannot agree with you more. your words make good sense.
this nanny is getting my baby bad sleeping habit.
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: ah well, nice to the baby is not exactly the same as good for the baby.
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D*****n
发帖数: 235 | 10 It is hard on the nanny if you ask her to sleep with a baby who is used to
prior routines such as sleeping with mommy. My one year old often is fussy
when sleeping with his grandma, who is a very capable person and has been
living together with half since my baby was six months old.
There are great nannies. But it is difficult for them to beat mommies. I don
't know how much you pay the nanny. It must be a great price (over 2000
dollars in net as my estimate) to ask her to do both the day and night. If
the price is lower than that, nothing to complain.
You may want to teach the nanny some tipps. But the difference is that
nannies do not want to be too harsh on babies and make them crying in the
middle of the night. If the nanny can stop the baby from crying by putting
on the light, she will sure do that.
and
【在 y**1 的大作中提到】
: I cannot agree with you more. your words make good sense.
: this nanny is getting my baby bad sleeping habit.
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y**1
发帖数: 1037 | 11 You are so right. Grand parents take care of babies for the love from the
bottom of their hearts. Nanny takes care of babies for the love of money.
【在 n****y 的大作中提到】
: grand parents are family, quite different from a nanny.
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D*****n
发帖数: 235 | 12 I think it is hard to say. Money is sure an issue. But it is unlikely for
people to stay in the profession long if they do not really like babies. I
have experience with several nannies. They are really great and treat my
boys very well. I am grateful to them.
【在 y**1 的大作中提到】
: You are so right. Grand parents take care of babies for the love from the
: bottom of their hearts. Nanny takes care of babies for the love of money.
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i*****a
发帖数: 18 | 13 ur nanny doesn't have baby caring skill but she sounds like a nice person.
As a parent, u should tell the nanny how to train ur baby. |
h***y
发帖数: 10334 | 14 ft....难道大家工作都是不要钱的吗? 就是因为爱这份工作?
这就是人家的工作.
家长还是不要把所有事情都留给nanny的..她只是辅助..你要训练你的孩子.
【在 y**1 的大作中提到】
: You are so right. Grand parents take care of babies for the love from the
: bottom of their hearts. Nanny takes care of babies for the love of money.
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d***i
发帖数: 597 | 15 第一，确实孩子跟孩子不一样，而且每个孩子的不同阶段也不一样，肯半夜陪孩子玩很
有爱心了
第二，如果你认为保姆的行为让孩子养成了坏习惯，可以不让保姆管夜里
我觉得基本不可能指望nanny给孩子养成好习惯。很仔细的照顾，保证安全，做份内家
务，已经是很好的阿姨了。
给孩子养成习惯这种需要智慧和坚持的事情，假如你碰到一个很好的阿姨，是福份，但
是碰不到，正常，基本来说保姆的工资而言，不具备这种本事我觉得是正常的。
我家的情况，阿姨非常有爱，非常宝贝孩子，但是睡觉问题上就是类似你的阿姨，总是
孩子一哭就去抱，抱着就不放下，半夜一下2个多小时，最后改掉这个习惯是这样的，
首先我觉得我得给孩子把这个规律调整过来，于是请假了一段加上本来赶上圣诞节，自
己跟他奋斗，然后等基本调整过来，阿姨回来，让阿姨在夜里12点到早上6点之间不负
责娃娃的任何，他哭的话直到把我哭起来我负责。一切都不是阿姨的责任。
后来基本就好了。
不知道你孩子多大，如果是小宝宝，很难说不能让孩子睡回去是习惯的问题或者是阿姨
的问题。如果是大于半岁了，你可以尝试sleeptrain，但是肯定得自己来的。 |
l*****r
发帖数: 7130 | 16 well，为了工资干活并不意味着她不爱孩子吧。
她要是sleeptrain你的孩子让他半夜哭两个小时你会觉得她更爱你的孩子吗？for
nanny, their hands are tied for certain things.
【在 y**1 的大作中提到】
: You are so right. Grand parents take care of babies for the love from the
: bottom of their hearts. Nanny takes care of babies for the love of money.
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j*****u
发帖数: 546 | 17 人家孩子一哭就去抱也是怕你听见孩子哭了。训练孩子有好习惯是需要让孩子流点眼泪
的，作为外人，立场很尴尬啊。
同意楼上说的，半夜肯陪娃玩两小时的，很多亲妈都做不到的。 |
