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发帖数: 1283 | 1 Being called names by your spouse.
Using words to shame. Critical, sarcastic, mocking words meant to put you
down either alone or in front of other people.
Yelling, swearing and screaming. “walking on eggs shells” syndrome because
you are living with someone who goes verbally ballistic for very little
cause.
Using threats to intimidate. No threat should be taken likely, even if your
spouse tells you they are only joking, especially if it causes you to change
behaviors or to feel on guard in the relationship.
Blaming the victim. Your spouse blows his/her top and then blames you for
their actions and behavior. If you were only perfect they wouldn’t lose
control!
Your feelings are dismissed. Your spouse refuses to discuss issues that
upset you. They avoid discussion of any topic where they might have to take
responsibility for their actions or words.
You often wonder why you feel so bad. You bury your feelings, walk on egg
shells and work so hard at keeping the peace that every day becomes an
emotional chore. You feel depressed and have even wondered if you are crazy.
Manipulating your actions. The persistent and intense use of threatening
words to get you to do something or act in a way you find uncomfortable.
This form of verbal abuse is common at the end of a marriage. If your spouse
doesn’t want a divorce they will say whatever it takes to play on your
emotions, to get you to stay in the marriage. All in an attempt to get you
to comply with their desires, regardless of what is best for you as an
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