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发帖数: 4035 | 1 最近读到一些关于培养孩子的"grit"的文章，挺有感触的，拿来和大家分享一下。
关心这个主要是因为我家七岁男孩怕难、怕输、怕吃苦，还听不得批评。从家里走到公
园只要七八分钟都不愿意，弹钢琴的手势不好，给他提个醒都生气。当然我和他爹也没
有做好榜样，我吃不得苦，她爹听不得批评。。。如果大家有这方面的经验教训，欢迎
分享。
“Grit” is defined as “perseverance and passion for long-term goals.” It
involves “working strenuously toward challenges, maintaining effort and
interest over years despite failures, adversity, and plateaus in progress.”
It’s one of a set of “noncognitive” skills — such as curiosity,
resilience, self-control — that researchers now realize impact students’
long-term success just as much — or possibly more –than academic skills or
IQ.
The Power of Defeat: How to Raise a Kid With Grit
http://www.scholastic.com/parents/resources/article/social-emot
skills/power-defeat-how-to-raise-kid-grit
Put a challenge in front of him.
If your child never has a chance to triumph over something difficult, she
may never develop confidence in her ability to confront a challenge. Taking
risks is an important way kids learn.
Promote perseverance.
When facing difficulties, encourage your child to stick to it and push
through the discomfort that’s a natural part of the learning process.
Be a nudge.
No one wants to be that mom, the one who pushes her child every step of the
way. But it’s OK to let your kids know that you expect them to do their
best and to create a structure that will help them do it.
Welcome boredom and frustration.
Success rarely occurs on the first try. In fact, there’s usually a pretty
long road peppered with all sort of bumps and potholes to navigate along the
way. And when kids understand that learning isn't supposed to be easy all
the time—and that having a tough time doesn't mean they’re stupid—
perseverance comes easier.
Let him fall — and model resilience.
Share your own struggles. Kids learn from the adults around them, so if you
want your children to handle setbacks with grace, model calm and
determination in the face of yours |
