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发帖数: 57 | 1 培养孩子情商的四种方法：
1、
Help your child recognize their own emotions
帮助你的孩子识别他们自己的情绪
Once you help your children “name” their own emotions, whether it be
frustration or anger or disappointment, they can start taking ownership.
Here you will not only spell out what they are feeling, but in what context
it is affecting others. When they are feeling upset or discouraged, ask them
to describe what they are feeling or get them to write it down or draw it.
Do it often so they get to know what it feels like to be sad or angry or
frustrated and they will learn to name their own emotion. Don’t forget to
do it with good emotions too. My daughter’s preschoolteacher uses images of
emotional teddy bears and the children pick which bear they are feeling.
They say what made them feel like that way and explain the emotion. For
example, my daughter picked the happy bear because she felt happy after
playing on the swing with her friends.
一旦你帮助你的孩子给他们的情绪“命名”，不论是沮丧，愤怒，还是失望，他们
就能够开始区分情绪。你不仅要告诉孩子他们的感受是什么，也要说明他们的情绪是怎
样影响他人的。当孩子感到沮丧或者害怕时，你可以让他们将感受描述出来，也可以让
他们写出来或者画出来。经常这样做的话，孩子就会知道伤心、生气和沮丧是什么样的
感觉。接着他们就会学着给自己的情绪“命名”。当然，不要忘记对积极的情绪采取同
样的做法。我女儿的幼儿园老师用不同表情的泰迪熊形象来给他们做示范，孩子们根据
他们的感受选择对应的泰迪熊形象，然后他们会阐述产生这种感受的原因。例如我女儿
选择了一只快乐的泰迪熊，她解释说是因为她在和朋友们玩了荡秋千后感到非常高兴。
2、
Talk about your own emotions with your child
和你的孩子谈谈你自己的情绪
The best way to foster emotional intelligence is to show it. Tell your
children how you are feeling and allow them toperceive it for themselves. We
often only think about emotions when they are big and hard to deal with,
like feeling disappointed or sad or angry and your children will likely know
when you are feeling any of these. You can also demonstrate here how you
deal with your own big emotions and “get over” anger or disappointment.
培养孩子情商的最好方式是将情绪表达出来。父母把自己的感受告诉给孩子并且允
许他们依靠自己去认识这些情绪。我们常常只会在情绪糟糕到难以处理时才会考虑到情
绪问题。像是感到沮丧，悲伤，愤怒等，当你有这些情绪时，你的孩子可能都会感觉到
。你也可以向他们展示如何处理和“战胜”愤怒或失望这种不良情绪。
It is important to talk about the positive emotions too. For example, I
am feeling so happy today because we just bought a house. Tell them what it
feels like for you. And demonstrate how your emotions might affect theirs.
As a parent, our own emotions have been sparked or triggered by something
our child may have done (good or bad). One of the most important things here
to remember is not to blame your child for making you angry or sad — they
haven’t made you angry — you have made you angry. This is invaluable to
teach our children, however it is a hard concept for adults to understand
and even harder for children. Once they know their own trigger points with
you and others, it will be much easier to control their emotions.
和你的孩子谈论积极的情绪也是非常重要的。例如你今天买了一套房子，所以你很
高兴，你就可以告诉孩子你在这件事情上的感受是怎样的，并告诉他们你的情绪是怎样
影响他们的。作为父母，我们的情绪也会被孩子表现的好坏所激发。一件很重要的事情
是，我们要记住，不能因为自己生气或伤心就去责备孩子。因为他们并没有让你生气，
让你生气的是你自己。这在教育孩子上是很宝贵的，然而对大人来说是非常难以理解的
，更别说对孩子了。不过，一旦他们认识到自己的表现会改变父母或者其他人情绪的触
发点时，他们将更容易控制自己的情绪。
3、
Recognize the mood or feeling inside your house
教孩子识别在家里的心情和感受
The mood and feelings change within your house. If you have people over,
it might feel fun andjubilant. If you wake up on a Sunday morning and the
house is quiet, it might feel calm and relaxed. Discuss these differences
with your children. Allow them to recognize the different moods inside your
house and see how their own emotions impact what happens in the house. At
some stage, especially in the holidays, the mood feels so high it might
explode and this is the time you would take your children to the park or
break the pattern somehow — discuss this with your children.
你在家时的情绪是会发生变化的。如果家里有客人的话，你就会感到愉快。如果是
在周末的清晨醒来，家里很安静，你就会感到平静和放松。你应该和孩子一起讨论一下
这两者的不同，让他们学会辨别在家时的不同情绪。你也要观察孩子的情绪是如何影响
家里的氛围的。像在假期这样一些特定的时期，孩子的情绪可能会因为过分兴奋而失控
，这时你可以带他去公园，或者通过和孩子讨论的方式帮助小孩平静下来。
4、
Recognize the mood or feeling when you go places
教孩子识别去别的地方时的心情或感受
Going into a crowded shopping mall will “feel” different from being at
a playground. Talk to your children about the different moods. A sunny, hot
day will feel different to a rainy, cold day and it will be different for
each person. As we approach summer, I was asking my own children which
season they like best. Two said summer and one said winter so we explored
why we liked each better and it came down to memories and activities, but
mostly moods. Two liked being outdoors with space to run around and a less
crowded, relaxed atmosphere. One liked winter and to be in the house playing
games with us because it was happy and fun. Each could explain the feelings
or emotions that went with the seasons. Try this activity with new and
familiar places you go and at different times. So if you go to the
supermarket and it is really busy, ask them what mood they pick up and then
if you go the next time and it is really quiet, they will pick up another
mood.
去拥挤的购物商场和在操场玩耍的心情是不同的，大人要告诉小孩这两种心情的区
别。不同的人，对晴朗炎热的天气和阴雨寒冷的天气的感受是不一样的。当夏日临近时
，我问我的孩子们最喜欢哪个季节，其中两个说喜欢夏天，另一个说喜欢冬天。接着，
我们就探讨了喜欢夏天或者冬天的原因，这种讨论带来的更多的是情绪上的变化，而不
是记忆或者行动上的。那两个孩子说，喜欢夏天是因为喜欢户外空旷的活动空间和轻松
的气氛，而喜欢冬天的小孩说，因为冬天待在家里和大家一起玩游戏是非常愉快和有趣
的。他们每一个人都能解释自己喜欢的季节带所给他们的心情和感受。大人可以尝试在
不同的时间去陌生的地方或者熟悉的地方，采用这种询问的方式培养孩子的情商。比如
，你去的超市人很多，你可以问问孩子心情是什么样的，如果下次去超市的时候，人很
少，你又问问，他们一定会有与上次不同的情绪感受。
Bringing awareness to the emotions and moods that are felt or perceived
in different situations helps your child assess the emotional intelligence
of each place. If they have just started at a new school, they will know
what the mood is or if something changes for the day at school, they will be
able to deal with it much more easily after knowing what they feel and how
it affects them. They will also be aware of how they pick up the moods of
others in their day.
大人能够觉察到，孩子在不同的场所感受到的情绪是不同的。这种认知可以帮助你
，评估孩子处于每个不同地方时他的情绪智力。如果孩子刚刚开始去一所新学校上学，
他们会明白他们当时的心情是怎样的。如果在上学的一天里有事情发生，当他们能够明
白自己的感受和事情对他们的影响后，他们能够很容易地解决遇到的事情，并能够明白
他们应该选择用什么样的心情面对其他同学。 |
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