p******r
发帖数: 1127 | 1 所以没有self esteem的卢瑟白左们搞起来self esteem movement这个奇葩毒害孩子。
这样人为洗脑出来的傻逼嘴上各种高大上snowflakes,内心深处照样还是没self esteem |
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x*****g
发帖数: 4 | 2 Everyone has a mental picture of his or her strengths, weaknesses,
characteristics, and abilities. This mental picture, often called self-image
, begins to develop in infancy and continues to grow and change throughout
life. People develop their self-image through their interactions with other
people and the world. Self-esteem is a person's overall sense of being
lovable, acceptable, worthy, and capable.
Self-esteem has three main parts:
·feeling loved and accepted by others
·having feelings of ... 阅读全帖 |
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l*******3
发帖数: 87 | 3 就是“自尊”啊，比如low self-esteem就叫低自尊啊，很多人在求助的时候就是“low
self-esteem”.
深入理解，应该可以理解到，包括自我人格，自我尊严吧，你前面的定义也包括得很全
面了吧。 |
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a*******a
发帖数: 451 | 4 这次北京的雾霾让 Daily show 都高潮了
http://www.thedailyshow.com/full-episodes/thu-january-24-2013-c
The Daily Show with Jon Stewart - Full Episode
January 24, 2013 - Christopher Walken
House Republicans press Hillary Clinton on Benghazi intelligence, China's
smog problem helps America's self-esteem, and Christopher Walken talks "
Stand Up Guys." |
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f*********1
发帖数: 2518 | 5 版上几个人最突出的共同点就是一辈子loser，实在没有建立self esteem的基础。 |
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w*******g
发帖数: 9932 | 6 Some of us have very low self-esteem.
Eager to blame ourselves for anything gone wrong.
Consider two cases:
1. I had an accident and someone hit my car from behind. The other guy is
not Chinese. Here are the details of the accident ...
Who is at fault?
2. I had an accident and I hit some car from behind. The other guy is not
Chinese. Here are the details and they are the same as case 1.
Who is at fault?
I bet 99 out 100 posts will blame me instead of the other guy.
That is why I never ask for ad... 阅读全帖 |
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c****8
发帖数: 73 | 7 认识几个中国女生都是外F的三哥，有中国大陆的，也有台湾的，看他们过得还挺幸福
，整天秀照片的，对这些mm来说这也是self low esteem的体现吗，大家说三哥比国男
有什么优势 |
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F*****e
发帖数: 270 | 8 对我来说成长是个异常痛苦的过程。我慢慢发现世界跟我想的很不一样，我也逐渐意识
到自己性格中有各种各样的缺陷。low self-esteem就是一个。在生活中，我总习惯去
看别人。我常常注意别人的反应和表情变化，渴望得到别人的认可，总是受别人的选择
和生活方式的影响。我独来独往，可我不知道自己想要什么，我需要参考别人都在追求
什么。我不注重自己的感受，也不会控制自己的情绪，总被外界变化支配。有人说我很
自我，可我觉得自己很早就迷失了自我！因为我的思想，情绪，行为都被外界事物左右。
人要学会value oneself。我该怎么value myself, 怎么恢复自尊和信心呢？还有可能
吗？ |
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c**r
发帖数: 10001 | 9 有可能啊，你的过去shape了你的现在，但是并不determine你的将来。不过并没有
什么简单易行的trick，可以不费力气的一下子就解决问题的，不管从什么途径入手，
都是一条漫长的路，中间会有很多挫折和痛苦，看你是否能在痛苦中坚持下去而不
堕回你习惯的low self-esteem的保护中了。什么途径适合你我不知道，有人是自己
看self help psychology的书籍，有人是修一些课听些讲座，有人是参加些meditation
之类的活动，有人是用锻炼社交这些生活中的途径，有人是做长期的心理治疗，探索
出合适自己的一些方法，然后结合起来估计是最好的吧。
右。 |
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E***u
发帖数: 60 | 10 实验顺利时自我膨胀，觉得天下无事不可为，自负
实验不顺利时self esteem就很糟糕，觉得不self- worthy，depressing
但同时又不愿意走出学术圈，因为觉得做科研毕竟是自我满足，而在别的地方工作就像
一种service，和从军差不多没有本质区别,因此也从来没考虑过别的 career 通道 |
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s***h
发帖数: 372 | 12 Dear God,
let me feel close to You.
Grant me satisfaction with my life.
Let me rejoice in that closeness,
and let me turn that satisfaction
into a sense of self-worth---
not one based in arrogance
or in feelings of self-importance,
but a humble self-esteem
rooted in holiness." |
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t********r
发帖数: 4908 | 13 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
littleice (家有两宝：狗娃猪仔) 于 (Thu Jul 29 16:58:01 2010, 美东) 提到:
今天去图书馆，偶尔在书架上发现这本书。
positive pushing--how to raise a successful and happy child，by Jim Taylor,
Ph.D.
我一看这个题目就笑了，心说不借来看看，咋对得起推妈的虚名？
看了看目录，貌似还可以。
等我看完了再来汇报。
☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
onlooker11 (onlooker) 于 (Fri Jul 30 15:34:14 2010, 美东) 提到:
看完了没？
,
☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
heleniry (瘦哥胖妹) 于 (Fri Jul 30 15:51:04 2010, 美东) 提到:
等的你读书笔记了。。。
,
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p*******e
发帖数: 986 | 14 【 以下文字转载自 Jan2010_baby 俱乐部 】
发信人: powerwave (YY, My heart!), 信区: Jan2010_baby
标 题: Psychological Immunity (ZZ)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Sep 7 16:23:21 2011, 美东)
This is a great article to read:
Consider a toddler who’s running in the park and trips on a rock, Bohn says
. Some parents swoop in immediately, pick up the toddler, and comfort her in
that moment of shock, before she even starts crying. But, Bohn explains,
this actually prevents her from feeling secure—not just on the playground,
but in l... 阅读全帖 |
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l****z
发帖数: 29846 | 15 How college students think they are more special than EVER: Study reveals
rocketing sense of entitlement on U.S. campuses
By Daily Mail Reporter
PUBLISHED: 15:30 EST, 5 January 2013 | UPDATED: 14:29 EST, 7 January 2013
Books aside, if you asked a college freshman today who the Greatest
Generation is, they might respond by pointing in a mirror.
Young people's unprecedented level of self-infatuation was revealed in a new
analysis of the American Freshman Survey, which has been asking students to
r... 阅读全帖 |
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c******i
发帖数: 4091 | 16 割包皮会造成一生的心理创伤和生理隐患，会增加妇科疾病的发病率，会增加艾滋病的
发病率，等等。
How Male Circumcision Harms Women
Ronald Goldman, Ph.D.
Learn about the hidden negative psychological and sexual effects of
circumcision and how these effects harm women in relationships with men.
This article is based on research reports in the medical and psychological
literature.
Marilyn Milos didn't know much about circumcision when she consented to have
her three sons circumcised. She trusted her doctor who told her it did not
hurt and "only to... 阅读全帖 |
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d****g
发帖数: 7460 | 17 不好意思，抢风头。
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem
这个WIKI LINK看的我后心发凉啊。带着一棵沉重的心，欢迎所有爱＂思考＂，＂探索
＂的大娃小娃家长，介绍成功经验，分享教训。
抛砖引玉的话，我们老二占了LOW ESTEEM的好几条。哭。
A healthy level of self-esteem:
1.Firmly believe in certain values and principles, and are ready to defend
them even when finding opposition, feeling secure enough to modify them in
light of experience.
2.Are able to act according to what they think to be the best choice,
trusting their own judgment, and not feeling guilty when others do not like
thei... 阅读全帖 |
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j**4
发帖数: 10425 | 18 have higher self-esteem and better quality of life than other women,
according to new study
A study published this week has debunked the stereotypical portrayal of porn
actresses as 'damaged goods' who enter the adult entertainment industry
because they suffer from low esteem or have been victims of childhood sexual
abuse.
The report in the Journal of Sex Research found that porn stars are not more
likely to have psychological problems than other women.
In fact, they discovered those in the sex ... 阅读全帖 |
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e****i
发帖数: 2152 | 19 【 以下文字转载自 Military 讨论区 】
发信人: erkuai (三天不上bbs,赶得上刘少奇), 信区: Military
标 题: On the Jews and Their Lies, 1543
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Jan 12 23:21:23 2011, 美东)
by Martin Luther (1483-1546)
Translated by Martin H. Bertram
copyright © 1971 Fortress Press & Augsburg Fortress - On the Jews and
Their Lies is from Luther’s Works Volume 47. Augsburg Fortress is the
publishing ministry of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America.
Funded through sales revenue, Augsburg Fortress is called to provide
produ... 阅读全帖 |
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e****i
发帖数: 2152 | 20 by Martin Luther (1483-1546)
Translated by Martin H. Bertram
copyright © 1971 Fortress Press & Augsburg Fortress - On the Jews and
Their Lies is from Luther’s Works Volume 47. Augsburg Fortress is the
publishing ministry of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America.
Funded through sales revenue, Augsburg Fortress is called to provide
products and services that communicate the Gospel, enhance faith, and
enrich the life of the Christian community from a Lutheran perspective.
Part I
I had mad... 阅读全帖 |
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n****i
发帖数: 214 | 21 这个帖子真是太好了，发现原来有这么多家长都有很多好经验。我的老大从一生下来就
是超级小心谨慎内向的气质，和我和他妈很像。所以我们从他小时候就一直琢磨如果培
养他，很多想法和实践和楼上的父母们一致，我就不重复了。
我去年读了Susan Cain的Quiet，专讲内向的性格（作者本人就是），给了我醍醐灌顶
的启发。强烈推荐。有一点我想和大家分享：内向不是件坏事。以上大家的讨论中，以
及西方社会（尤其是美国）通常会认为外向性格优越。其实内向的人有很多天生的优点
：他们通常有不多但是很知心的朋友，他们通常考虑问题很深。所以内向的人通常会表
现的更聪明，更容易成为某一领域的专家。
明白这一点，可以帮助我们消除作为内向人的自卑感。这很重要，因为内向是先天的，
是有神经系统的生理原因的，很难完全用后天培养掩盖。如果内向的人不能接受自己内
向（而且这无法根本改变）的本质，不能为此而骄傲，就不容易建立Self-Esteem.说到
底，什么是self-esteem?就是love yourself, 不管你是不是有各种缺点。
我们也一直让孩子慢慢尝试新东西，在小的成功中慢慢建立自信。但是读了这本书后，
我在... 阅读全帖 |
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t*******r
发帖数: 22634 | 22 以下为转载，link 在第二页。
Are We Overpraising Our Children?
The negative effects of overpraising kids
Posted Dec 10, 2013
Research has shown that there are positive effects of praising children, but
it depends on what kind of praise we’re dishing out. A recent Stanford
Study (link is external) of toddlers showed that “praising effort, not
talent, leads to greater motivation and more positive attitudes toward
challenges” down the road. These findings are consistent with previous
research, which has connec... 阅读全帖 |
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a*******p
发帖数: 1955 | 23 来自主题: LeisureTime版 - 完美的代价 这里说到一个self-esteem的情况，很多人认为孩子有很高的self-esteem就会很自信，
在各方面都有不错的表现，在逆境中也能很好地调节自己，西方教育中对孩子的正面鼓
励这一点似乎让孩子有很高的self-esteem，而事实上，多年前的研究调查就显示，美
国孩子调查结果是对自己数学表现最自信的，有很高的self-esteem的值，可是数学成
绩恰恰是最低的。在监狱里的犯人，大部分都有很高的self-esteem的值，而他们恰恰
没有好的生活、事业和人际关系。相反，各行各业中有较成功表现以及有良好家庭关系
的人，self-esteem反而是相对较低的。所以其实让孩子真实地了解自己的情况，了解
不足的情况下让鼓励孩子去面对和改变自己的不足，更好地提高自己还是有必要的，所
以也不能一概而论。
西方教育中也未必就是什么都用赞扬的话，只是他们的表达方式会更让人容易接受一些
。自尊自强自信如果变成了盲目自大就惨了，现在国内也有不少教育者提倡所谓的西方
教育方式，但如果不是真正了解孩子的情况，提出适应环境的教育方法，最后对孩子只
会弊大于利。 |
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D*****r
发帖数: 6791 | 24 A SPEECH OF Mr. JOHN MILTON
For the Liberty of VNLICENC'D PRINTING,
To the PARLAMENT of ENGLAND.
______________________________________________________________
This is true Liberty when free born men
Having to advise the public may speak free,
Which he who can, and will, deserv's high praise,
Who neither can nor will, may hold his peace;
What can be juster in a State then this?
... 阅读全帖 |
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w*******y
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H****g
发帖数: 14447 | 26 大概可以从self-esteem的角度理解。既然她自己并没有那么美，又自认为是美女，就
意味着自己的self-esteem高，也就是说，需要得到更多的肯定，才能维持这么高的
self-esteem。所以呢，碰到带有否定性的评价，哪怕别人是客观评价或者友善的建议
，就会导致自己的self-esteem无法平衡，也就是说，为了恢复心理上的平衡，大致会
出现两种反应。
第一种就是调低自己的self-esteem，也就是passive reaction。
第二种呢，就是采取对负面意见采取逃避或者否认的态度。大概你说的就是第二种情况
喽。
所以说嘛，女人心，海底针啊。哈哈 |
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l****z
发帖数: 29846 | 27 自尊心这个是由内向外的. 你大概是混淆了自尊心和自信心. 英文就是self esteem和
self confidence.
self esteem是对自己本人的value的看法,这个和有钱没钱没关系. Self-esteem
reflects an individual's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or
her own worth.
而self confidence是某人对做某事的信心. The concept of self-confidence is
commonly used as self-assurance in one's personal judgment, ability, power,
etc.
举个例子好了, 一个人打golf可以打的很差, 所以他对打golf没有self confidence,
但golf打的不好不影响他本身的self esteem. 他的self esteem还是可以很高. |
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r***u
发帖数: 1272 | 28 William Deresiewicz 2010年在斯坦福大学的演讲：
我的题目提出的问题，当然，是一个传统地面向人文科学的专业所提出的问题：学习文
学、艺术或哲学能有什么实效价值（practical value）？你肯定纳闷，我为什么在以
科技堡垒而闻名的斯坦福提出这个问题呢？大学学位给人带来众多机会，这还有什么需
要质疑的吗？
但那不是我提出的问题。这里的“做（do）”并不是指工作（job），“那(that)”并
不是指你的专业（major）。]我们不仅仅是我们的工作，教育的全部也不仅仅是一门主
修专业。（We are more than our jobs, and education is more than a major.）教
育也不仅仅是上大学，甚至也不仅是从幼儿园到研究生院的正规学校教育。我说的“你
要做什么”的意思是你要过什么样的生活（what kind of life are you going to
lead?）？我所说的“那”指的是你得到的正规或非正规的任何训练，那些把你送到这
里来的东西，你在学校的剩余时间里将要做的任何事。
我们不妨先来讨论你是如何考入斯坦福的... 阅读全帖 |
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C*****e
发帖数: 367 | 29 费氏要理问答 63-64
THE
SHORTER CATECHISM
EXPLAINED
QUESTION 63. Which is the Fifth Commandment?
ANSWER: The Fifth Commandment is, Honour thy father and thy mother; that thy
days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
QUESTION 64. What is required in the Fifth Commandment?
ANSWER: The Fifth Commandment requireth the preserving the honour, and
performing the duties, belonging to every one in their several places and
relations, as superiors, inferiors, or equals.
Q. 1. "Who are mea... 阅读全帖 |
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p***y
发帖数: 18037 | 30 Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior
Can a regimen of no playdates, no TV, no computer games and hours of music
practice create happy kids? And what happens when they fight back?
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405274870411150457605971
By AMY CHUA
Amy Chua with her daughters, Louisa and Sophia, at their home in New Haven,
Conn.
A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically
successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math
whizzes and music prod... 阅读全帖 |
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p***y
发帖数: 18037 | 31 Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior
Can a regimen of no playdates, no TV, no computer games and hours of music
practice create happy kids? And what happens when they fight back?
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405274870411150457605971
By AMY CHUA
Amy Chua with her daughters, Louisa and Sophia, at their home in New Haven,
Conn.
A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically
successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math
whizzes and music prod... 阅读全帖 |
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i*********t
发帖数: 5873 | 32 大概觉得好玩，昨天同事发给我下面这篇文章，今儿一边开会一边扫了遍，刚才发现买
买提首页头条就是这个amy chua的新闻，有兴趣的同学耐心读读，挺有意思的。
1.我开始看还在笑，后来慢慢僵住了。
2.没读过她别的书/文章，想知道她怎么对孩子进行挫折教育的。假如她小二弹琴左右
手乱套就是改不过来，怎么办？恐怕孩子都不用她骂，自己都觉得自己是garbage了。
3.“nothing is fun until you're good at it”这是什么精英逻辑？一无所长的孩子
难道都是抑郁症的胚子？
A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically
successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math
whizzes and music prodigies, what it's like inside the family, and whether
they could do it too. Well, I... 阅读全帖 |
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J******s
发帖数: 7538 | 33 http://www.abundancetapestry.com/how-to-love-yourself-in-17-way
I have compiled a list on “how to love yourself” for readers who are
facing difficulty knowing what to do in embracing themselves. When I first
began to be aware that I need to love myself first prior to developing any
meaningful relationships with others, I realized that I did not know where
to start.
This was a surprise to me then as I would have thought I’d be an expert on
love and relationships by then. After all, as I recalled,... 阅读全帖 |
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a*****c
发帖数: 3525 | 34 从这个词(Hokkien dialect)才知道这个牛妈妈是福建人。
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405274870411150457605971
* The Wall Street Journal
* THE SATURDAY ESSAY
* JANUARY 8, 2011
Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior
Can a regimen of no playdates, no TV, no computer games and hours of music
practice create happy kids? And what happens when they fight back?
By AMY CHUA
A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically
successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so ma... 阅读全帖 |
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c*****e
发帖数: 436 | 35 Verbal abuse
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Verbal abuse (also known as reviling) is when someone uses word(s) and/or
mind games to instill self-doubt in the victim and to build the abuser's
sense of dominance and control. Verbal abuse is a pattern of behavior that
can seriously interfere with a person's healthy emotional development. It
leads to significant detriment of a person's self-esteem, emotional well-
being, and physical state.
People who are verbally assaulted know the insults a... 阅读全帖 |
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E*********e
发帖数: 10297 | 37 补充一点
PART 1 SELF-ESTEEM
从70年代开始,人们相信high self-esteem会带来好的结果,所以为了不损害孩子self-
esteem,人们不用achievement来衡量孩子,学校取消了GRADING,SPORTS取消了WINNER,但
实际
上这种过度保护,反而会让孩子成年后不适应社会.
The goal is to prepare children for achievement. 'Let us view it (self-
esteem) as a rarified compound consisting of attitude, character,
conscience, and hard work.'
the combination of the grounding in feeling loved and
secured, with the desire to explore their abilities that come from a
strong sense of competence, acts as the true sourc |
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发帖数: 1421 | 38 【 以下文字转载自 Wisdom 讨论区 】
发信人: JeanIris (Iris), 信区: Wisdom
标 题: How To Love Yourself In 17 Ways
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Sun Jan 22 12:40:42 2012, 美东)
http://www.abundancetapestry.com/how-to-love-yourself-in-17-way
I have compiled a list on “how to love yourself” for readers who are
facing difficulty knowing what to do in embracing themselves. When I first
began to be aware that I need to love myself first prior to developing any
meaningful relationships with others, I realized that I did not know where
to... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 580 | 39 I'm with you, sis!
剛剛把WSJ的文章找出來發給她們爹底。他的回復就幾個字：
What? You want to be like her?
我的回復是: you'll never let me...
即使我擼起袖子想推，無奈在家沒有虎媽的地位，空有熱情也沒有用呀。:P
ok seriously speaking, 她說的當然有點嘩眾取寵的意味，大部分的中國家長也沒有
那麼誇張。看今天正反方的人數差距就知道了，即使中國父母也沒有多少贊同她的。但
她有些觀點我真的很同意，學什麼都有個barrier, 突破了那個barrier之後，也就是
good at it之後，那個快樂絕對跟順手打打醬油不一樣。每次我在家吼孩子老公在旁邊
使眼色我就覺得，你干麻呀，小孩罵兩聲就罵壞了嗎？就沒有self esteem了？幫助她
master一項她有困難的東西才是長遠的幫助她建立self esteem的釜底抽薪的辦法。你
安慰她兩句結果她還是不行還是不行還是不行，那不是永遠沒有一個自己給自己self
esteem的機會？我真覺得那才是剝奪小孩自己建立self esteem的機會。
當然pi... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 21627 | 40 Sugar Star
“
In general, it's true that Asian ladies have very low self-esteem. I hate to
say this, but it's fact that Asian girls are sl*ts. Don't blame me for
being "racist" or "discriminating". In fact, it's those Asian females who
discriminate against their own race. Frankly speaking, I don't see such self
-discrminating thing happening on other races. Whites, black, and Latino
ladies ... all the rest of the world have very high self-esteem, except for
Asians. Asian sl*ts look down upon the... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 10729 | 41 这种新闻虽然在具体细节上不一定准确，也许楼主可以澄清。但是类似的情况（确实是
发生过的。
2011年，加州 Mother’s Day Celebrations Banned as Sexist。
http://www.orangejuiceblog.com/2011/05/mothers-day-celebrations
“Declaring celebration of Mother’s Day sexist, the California Department
of Health and Human Services has proposed regulations that would criminalize
the celebration. ”
California State Assemblymen Sonci Degiorno took up the cause at the
Assemply level, “People need to understand that they can’t simply have a
holiday that offends part o... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 2279 | 42 September 11, 2010
Testing, the Chinese Way
By ELISABETH ROSENTHAL
When my children were 6 and 8, taking tests was as much a part of the rhythm
of their school day as tag at recess or listening to stories at circle time
. There were the “mad minute” math quizzes twice each week, with the
results elaborately graphed. There were regular spelling quizzes. Even today
I have my daughter’s minutely graded third-grade science exams, with
grades like 23/25 or A minus.
We were living in China, where thei... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 2236 | 43 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
qingqingfeng (qingqingfeng) 于 (Fri Jan 18 15:39:56 2013, 美东) 提到:
儿子11了，4岁半来美，现在初中一年，去年8月刚搬家到新的学区。在新学校总是出现
问题，以前小学不这样的。刚开始不会打开locker之类的事，就是手忙脚乱也过来了。
有时会为了小事，他就急。
最大的问题是说话不合时宜，经常说出让人意外话。一次，他说他的钢琴老师，你
smell like a Burger，我立刻打住他，可是已经说了，我很尴尬，后来老师就不在教
他弹琴了。我们已经发现他这个问题，总是在教他，可是，这好像是天生的，他改不了
。在新学校，一次，他见几个孩子在闲聊，他问在旁边的老师，他们在说什么，老师忙
，就说not your business,他就很生气，追上老师说，你为什么这么rude，老师当然不
会高兴，把他教育了一顿。另一次，他在课上举手想回答问题，第二个问题，又举手，
最后老师叫他了，结果他站起来问老师问什么才叫他，老师就发飚了，儿子就哭了。
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发帖数: 4651 | 44 【 以下文字转载自 WaterWorld 讨论区 】
发信人: Sande710 (SD主妇), 信区: WaterWorld
标 题: 【哈佛大学推荐】20个快乐的习惯
关键字: 快乐 智慧
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Mar 19 13:57:53 2015, 美东)
1. Be grateful.
要学会感恩。
Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your
life – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset,
the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner
’s eyes…
让自己变慢脚步，看看你的四周，关注生活中的细微之处：人行道上淡紫色的花，美丽
的日落，洗去你一天疲惫的淋浴，伴侣眼中的笑容。
When you have a grateful heart that... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 4844 | 45 嗯，是则是，非即非。掩耳盗铃不是提高自己的办法。
其实self-esteem还不仅是归属感，这两者联系很紧密可不同。就self-esteem而言，第
一代来到这快新大陆的时候那个shock不是第二代有经历过的。作为已成人的第一代，
shock之后的内心变化也是很多样的，这大家还看到的少吗？在这个self-esteem的话题
上，咱第一代的挣扎不比第二代少。
老版本的对华人的sterotype其实是很老套的，他们眼里的华人还是那几十、几百年前
的华人，弱、矮、丑、傻、奸、穷、愚 ... ... 当然有些华人的败类还在影视里迎合
西人把当今的华人也演成这样，比如那部《大红灯笼高高挂》。
现实里第二代已经没有这个忧虑了，他们的自尊危机跟咱们第一代的不是同一个版本。
比如跟俺娃一起毕业的三个孩子两个一米八以上，另一个也一米七呀，三个孩子没有一
个小眼睛。你认为在这三个娃面前会有西人孩子嘲笑他们矮小、长着小眼睛吗？那不是
自己找抽吗？
只要你不是最强的那个种族，歧视永远都是有的。西人彼此也有歧视不是，很正常。No
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发帖数: 2257 | 46 哈佛大学推荐20个快乐的习惯 (中英双语）
(2015-07-31 20:01:22)
1. Be grateful.
要学会感恩。
Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your
life – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset,
the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner
’s eyes…
让自己变慢脚步，看看你的四周，关注生活中的细微之处：人行道上淡紫色的花，美丽
的日落，洗去你一天疲惫的淋浴，伴侣眼中的笑容。
When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life’s beautify,
wonder and blessings, you’re automatically filled with happines... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 5750 | 47 孩子两三岁的时候，可能会抢东西，这是一个Developmental的一个Phase，这个年龄的
孩子，就是：MIne Mine Mine，自我中心。 但是可以在更早的时候开始教给孩子这些
基本规则。
我家的孩子大约在一岁多的时候，我就设置的规矩包括有： 1. 别人的东西我不拿，2.
排队等候。3 分享使我很快乐等等等等。从小就很下力的执行，每次都使用相同的话，
以后又在动画片里面加深，在故事书里面强化，所以每次她在禁不住犯规的时候，我
就背诵这几句口诀， 就象金箍棒一样大部分的时候很管用。
其他方面雷同，我觉得小孩子需要简洁一致的教育。这样避免了每次唐不同的类容，难
以掌握。
同时讲故事里面体现“ Sharing Makes happy"/(分享使我更快乐）， 排队
等候/Wait For Your Turn. 动画片里面有类似场景，在旁边旁白加强理解。平常她有
这个行为的时候，给予鼓励。 她在公共场合强别人的东西，会被我在阻止。
另外，我的原则是， 对于自己的孩子，我是公平的，如果是她的Turn就是她的Turn。
还有，如果是 我孩子自己的Comfy Toy， 别人要想拿，我认为强迫... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 201 | 48 MM我就是从首页点进来的。我是学心理学的。真的觉得你有些自卑，像之前一个同学说
的，self-
esteem低，self-esteem低的人就是觉得自己就是这样的，只是客观的情况，别人夸你
都是因为不知
道你的真实的“客观情况”。但是我从MM的回帖里就可以看出来实际上MM没有像你自己
说的这么差的。承
认这个没有什么不好，面对问题是解决问题，自我成长的第一步。
MM可以先google一下low self esteem，看看有哪些方面是可以自己慢慢改进的。自信
真的很重
要，每一个人都是deserve好好被对待的，可是MM说自己只想找到能说早安晚安的人。
其实除了容貌和
身材，自信可以加很多分的。
祝福MM早日找到自己的幸福！ |
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发帖数: 12010 | 49 http://half-life.wikia.com/wiki/Aperture_Science
Aperture Science, Inc.,[7] often simply referred to as Aperture Science or
simply Aperture, is an American scientific research corporation whose
laboratories and administration, Aperture Laboratories, are located in
Cleveland, Ohio, USA.[1] Originally a shower curtain manufacturer, it
evolved over the course of half a century into an experimental physics
research institution and a bitter rival of Black Mesa.
"Aperture Laboratories" is also used as... 阅读全帖 |
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